I have recently taken in two refugee lodgers (UK, ex Saudi), we are a totally LGBT household. Their first year or so has been living in an ensuite hotel whilst they sought asylum. Then being made homeless once being refugee status and having to use shelters. I came in contact through friends who volunteer organising rehoming ... and I've wanted LGBT lodgers only ... I am a gay guy, 54.

I've made no rules about guests, I'm happy for the noise and interruption in my life, I work at home and it gives the opportunity for conversation and new stimulation.

One of the lodgers (lesbian, non-binary) has the same friends come for a sleepover now and then for a few days. I'm perfectly happy with this. They are also refugee and asylum seeker, trans couple. The asylum centres can be very homophobic and anti-ex-muslim so they are not a nice place to stay 24x365. The trans guy was suddenly moved to a town 100 miles away to another hotel, splitting up the couple, so they get to gether at mine.

The other lodger (gay guy) is complaining that he has no privacy (he has his own room) that it's abnormal for guests to stay more than 5 hours, that I shouldn't allow guests to stay 5 nights at a time (a one off), and they shouldn't return. He is just being a dick about it all. I've told him he is totally free to give me his notice and move on, he has no job yet, but has turned down cleaning work because it is 'beneath him'. He refuses to believe anything I have to say on this topic, he believes he is perfectly correct, yet he has done no research nor can point out anything that says I'm in the wrong. Just says that I want to control him.

I talked him through HMO rules demanding headcount for fire regulations, but he doesn't accept that there are no rules like this that apply to me, and he believes I'm making rules up to control him, when I haven't even given them any rules.

He is perfectly at liberty to also have friends over to stay in exactly the same way, he just doesn't have any friends to invite. He wanted his room in a different colour paint, so I started showing him how to paint the room ... he hasn't finished it ... doesn't seem to think that he should do it ... I've explained he'd be lucky to even be allowed to elsewhere ... and would have to do it himself out of his own money if so ... I've bought the paint as it needs to be specific type for the walls ... but he chose the colour.

I really don't want to give him his notice as he needs to grow up (he's 30) and smell the coffee before it's too late for him ... but he is pushing it currently and I know it would be the wake up call he needs ... he will be homeless again ... he's at the bottom of the pile in terms of help from the council ... he was homeless before he came to me.

Any thoughts ... should I just give him his notice and let him learn the hard way ... it's occupying too much of my mind at the moment.