Sounds like your bulls are inexperienced, or maybe you guys need to slow down a little and let the relationship develop naturally. Anytime that you come on too strong is a turn off, Maybe try inviting them over for a football game or a ufc fight where they can play, hang out, rinse and repeat.

98% of people on Reddit are wannabes, I usually go to swingers sites, or meet guys at parties.

I have hooked up with 2-3 guys off Reddit, but the overwhelming majority like the thought of it, but chicken out, this is especially true for couples.

My husband is heavily requested for MMFs by other swingers in our area, people talk and the girls really like him.

If you want to increase your odds you need to make yourself as attractive as possible, go to the gym, watch what you eat, dress well, stay clean, find the style that makes you most attractive, be friendly and respectful. Put yourself out there and eventually you'll click with someone. There are swingers of all ages, shapes and sizes, the better you present yourself will open you up to more of them.

My husband and I are one of the hotter couples around, so we are very picky. 🤷🏼‍♂️