My wife and I have flirted with both the HWL and various forms of ENM. More often than not, it’s my wife that plays. I’m excited by it, and it is 100% a VERY strong kink.

The issue is that my wife isn’t very good at telling sexy stories. My anxiety is that it’s because she doesn’t admit to what she’s feeling both in and out of the moment. This leads to me feeling a level of anxiousness about our connection. I know she tells me 100% of what she did, but it’s often so clinical.

When this happens, I often have to draw all of the details, thoughts (etc.), out of her and we both end up frustrated and I overreact/ overthink. I think, well maybe she’s just saving that side of her for the other person. I know thoughts aren’t reality, but it makes this LS very hard.

Today I’m reeling because I may have been an asshole to my wife last night. What do I do if either she or I can’t overcome this obstacle?