Man I just found this forum and I hope there’s a few chaps or lads who can give me some advice.

I brought up this idea about a year ago now and it came crashing down cause I was too pushy. Then after going through hell and I realized my brain would not let this go we explored these ideas in the bedroom again. It was bliss, and she even flirted and kissed a guy at the bar. Then we went to a concert and since then it’s been real quiet on the Hotwife talks.

I tried to bring it up during sex tonight and chickened out cause she was sober and told her that and we fought about how I’m moving too fast and realized we had not dirty talked or shared stories while she was sober.

I don’t think a couple drinks to loosen the mood is all that bad, but it sort of became too regular.

So now that’s she’s stopped drinking I feel like I made no progress at all. Like all I’ve done is pin my own needs on her and that’s not what I wanted. I wanted her to be into it too.

When she’s sober it’s never the right time or she just will let me talk and not say anything. I shut down on her once before and I don’t want to do that but I don’t want to ruin it again by Talking too much.

I just want to know what I can do to not completely shut down but also not overwhelm cause I have been told I can be a bit much. I’m trying to be cool lol.