We (30,31) had explored the lifestyle years ago and had 1-2 partners in a year. Then we didn’t for a long time. Last year we got back into it and since then we have had multiple 3somes with different guys and she has been encouraged to play on her own with several who have hit on her at the gym, as long as I was in the loop and told everything. Well it started off great then it took a turn and information started to become less detailed every time.

I eventually found out that she had been meeting up with a guy from the gym for months and I was never told anything about it. I was obviously upset and she came clean about it and apologized. Well she ended up going on a girls trip and meeting up with another guy and it took a few weeks before she told me about it. In the middle of all that we have had about 5 partners join us in 2023 that had good communication and connections with the Bull and wife and me and wife.

She still talks to guys through snap and continues to not communicate with me about it and now wants to separate bc she tells me I have basically pimped her out and put her in bad situations. Blaming me for being into this first, but basically she’s gotten into it, just not into it by it being something that helps our marriage. I know I opened the can of worms by introducing all this to her, but has anyone else had a similar situation and come back from it to save your marriage? I don’t think the lifestyle did this to us, I think her lack of communication and social awkwardness about sex in general caused the lifestyle To be difficult for us to manage.