I’m not even sure why I’m here I just feel like I’ve been crying to my friends too much and they’re gonna get annoyed with me soon.

My wife is divorcing me and I swear I don’t understand why. We had a good life. Things suck now but that’s the entire world. Instead of us coming together to fight the world she convinced herself im the root of her misery. She had untreated BPD which I’ve been begging her to get help for but she won’t.

I put her through school while I was a teacher and it was a struggle. I had panic attacks being the sole provider. Went weeks without sleep and then when she finally graduated and worked a nurse making over double what I made suddenly the finances were in trouble. She wanted to act like we were on the verge of poverty while having 8k in the bank. I own the property so we dont pay rent and we have it made.

I honestly don’t understand what happened. How does a switch flip and you just don’t love the person you made a life long commitment too?! Why is it not worth working for?

I lost my best friend and all I want to do is go to her but she’s the cause of my pain. I feel so empty I have this awful pit in my stomach and all I can think about is the future I worked for that will never be.

Before we met she lived with her mom, was a nanny, and went to clubs. She met me with my life together and decided she could get hers together too. I encouraged that.

After we are over. She has an amazing career and is able to live independently and I’m in a job paying less living in the same place I started.

She took so much that I sacrificed and has the nerve to tell me I never provided for her. I just don’t understand why.