My boyfriend (23) and I (26) have been together for 3 years, lived together for 2. We have a healthy and loving relationship and work well together as a team. I’m certain that in the future we will marry, and even more certain that I want to have kids with him. I have been contemplating the idea of surrogacy as an option. I have a dear friend that is willing and able to carry a child for us, as well. But more and more I hear terms like “rent-a-womb” getting thrown out and it’s unsettling.

Is it unethical to deprive a child of its natural born mother? How involved should she be after the birth? Can a child thrive with two fathers? I understand it’s all in how you raise children, but I worry I would cause more harm down the line.

Any thoughts are welcomed.