I've had a friend for 15 years now. I've always considered her one of my best friends. I have some of my best memories with her, we have gone on lots of vacations/excursions, and we have done many amazing things together. We have lots of mutual friends and our families even consider the other as their own. However, this friend is extremely selfish and the entire friendship has felt mostly one sided.

I don't know how to sum up the past 15 years other than to say it feels like all I do is give and all she does is take (without any gratitude). She's an only child and was always extremely spoiled by her mom. She's used to getting her way, and unfortunately, I am a very easy going "yes man" type of person. Growing up, it was always her way or the highway. We always did what she wanted to do, and very rarely did we do what I wanted to do. If I didn't want to do something and I spoke up about it, I received either an extreme attitude or the silent treatment until something else came along and cheered her up. She is also very possessive of the time she spends with me. Each time we hang out, she needs to spend as much time with me as possible otherwise she's not happy. She would always want to have sleepovers when we were younger to maximize our time together. If I couldn't or said no for some other reason, she would let me know she was unhappy by giving me an attitude when it was time for me to leave. She also often overstayed her welcome or "held me hostage" by forcing me to leave later than I wanted to. For example, if I had to leave at 5:30 to be somewhere by 6, she would make sure we were just getting back to the house at 6.

She's the type to hate that I have other friends. She's the type to get jealous when I do fun things without her. She's the type to ask me to hang out for 12 hours and get upset when I say I am only free for 11.5 hours. She's the type to buy the last pair of my favorite pants in my size just so I can't have them (yes, this actually happened, and she NEVER wore them). She's the type to spend 3 hours in the bathroom getting ready and get frustrated when I ask for 5 minutes alone to pee. She's the type to invite me to a party and get mad when I can't come early. She's the type to not send a housewarming gift when I bought a new house. She's the type to make me feel guilty for moving far away (~3 hours by car) and complain about how I never visit her, but only comes to visit me once every year or two. She's the type to never cheer me on in my accomplishments, but instead make me feel bad for accomplishing something without her. She continuously drains the life out of me and then complains that I am lifeless.

Don't get me wrong, there have been plenty of good times, hence why I've stuck around for 15 years. I've also tried to cut her some slack over the years, because I know she was a spoiled child and also has abandonment issues, so some of her behavior as a child wasn't 100% her fault. But there's only so much that can justify, especially into adulthood. As the years went on, the friendship became so unbearable. I got to the point where I dreaded hanging out with her and would often lie to get out of plans. I always felt like it was my fault for not speaking up/letting it get to that point, but now I can see that it's not entirely my fault. She is to blame too. My biggest saving grace was that I moved away and don't have to see her as often. If I didn't move away, I likely would have ended the friendship years ago. With some distance and some personal growth on her end, it's now bearable, but still draining. She still acts as though I did her an extreme disservice by moving away. I'm not sure if she feels I abandoned her or if she's upset I accomplished something without her. Regardless, after every ounce of support I have shown her, she won't show an ounce for me.

I'm not sure if I'm asking for advice here or just needing support. Can anyone else relate to having a friend like this? Are they still your friend or did you cut them off? How has your life changed if you did?