Can anyone recommend some good training material for a novice? Here is the situation. My wife and I have dabbled ever so slightly with femdom. She really enjoys using a strapon and I love it too. I'm hoping to have her embrace being a dom more. When I've introduced more elements like spanking or being restrained, she's open to it but I think we both lack the experience to "do it right."

I know there is no right way but she is restrained when it comes to doing things that she thinks could hurt me. For example when she spanks me, I can tell she's holding back and after she always says I was afraid I was doing it too hard. I always reassure her that I loved it and want more.

She seems to lack the vocabulary. I don't know how else to say it. She is more sultry than dominant when we play like this. So I was thinking that a bit of reading could help give her some basics/fundamentals.

I know the key to all of this is communication so anything you can recommend for me would also be great. I've shared some of the things I like but I know I can do a better job.

Thanks for any help.