Sooo yeah. Basically, my (25f) parents got divorced just 3 years ago during the pandemic. My partner and I have been together for almost 5 years, and have been discussing the future and looking at rings. Well… my dad out of the blue asked me if I would want my mom’s ring that he gave her when they got engaged. Tbh, I love the ring. I always have. Photo attached is from when I was in high school. I know nothing about the specs other than it’s a round diamond solitaire on yellow gold. There are a few things I’m thinking about with this.

A) I’m really interested in sapphires for a variety of reasons. I have no idea the specs on my mom’s old ring but I’m almost positive it’s a natural diamond. Ethically, I feel a little weird about wearing that even though it’s “heirloom”.

B) I was having a lot of fun searching with my partner and talking about a custom ring we could build together. I don’t really want that process to just…. end now. You know?

C) My parents did NOT have a good relationship. Their divorce, though surprising because me and my older sibling were adults, was actually not shocking at all. The process was not amicable either and was pretty traumatizing for me and my sibling, though everything is mostly fine now. With that, I’m not sure if I would feel weird wearing what was a symbol of a horrible relationship. But …. The ring is stunning ….. and also free lol.

What do I do 😫😫 either way I know my dad won’t be offended, though I’m not sure he’d let me have it if not to be used as my engagement ring. Having two would be my ideal, though don’t think it’s an option lol. Seeking any advice or thoughts :”) and before anyone says “get what you want”, I’ve never had a dream ring in mind, so that’s not super helpful here.