Tl;dr girlfriend broke my trust, should I let her work on building it back or take off my rose tinted glasses? Hello. About us, I'm N (26m) and my partner Q (29f) have been enm for going on a year, and close friend for 7. We have been enm solely through our relationship and everything has been going smoothly until today when I found out in mid September Q had sent a video of us having sex, and another of her using sex toys in my bedroom to a guy she used to know when she arrived home after drinking at 4am. These messages were sent from my house where I was either still out drinking or in bed asleep. I did not give consent for them to be shared, ever. It was clear they were filmed for our eyes only. I am not OK that the video of me is out there. For me, this is a huge breach of trust as my 2 strongest and most spoken about boundaries for enm is I'm the only one that gets nsfw images/videos, and we discuss every out of relationship encounter of any sort, with the exception of talking and light flirting, before it happens. I can't justify it as her forgetting, as he had sent a messaged in October about the messages which Q hadn't replied to. I have just brought it up when she was getting ready for work. I had asked yesterday if she had sent anything to anyone, as we hadn't spoken about it in over a month, and Q confirmed nothing had been sent. So I asked her to confirm again for me, and when she smile comfortingly and said no, of course it's no. I let her know I knew and that she must know. She said she guess she knew in the back of her mind but pushed it aside, which emotions aside, is clear is utter rubbish. So that's the story, but the question is: I'm in love with this girl and have been for longer than we've been together, she's the only woman I've been able to trust and open up to having a future with since I was 2p, but is that clouding my judgement? If I read this on this sub I'd be thinking they should run. But a drunken slip up doesn't have to ruin an amazing thing, does it?