I’ve noticed that there is a difference between Poly and ENM. Mainly that with ENM there seems to be a drive to make things really fair and equal in terms of partners seeing other partners and there are rules of the road to help minimize conflict in the context of everyone having multiple relationships.

But Poly seems to be a situation where a woman has more than one partner, and those partners ONLY see her, they are exclusive to her. She says that she is cool with her men seeing other people, but the moment that starts to happen she starts acting defensive and hurt. When confronted with the lack of consistency there or equality, she has a temper tantrum and the men in her life realize that she is emotionally unstable and unwilling to communicate about why she can’t use ethics and logic to be supportive. She feels what she feels and makes no apologies. She demands loyalty from her multiple partners. And over time the men grow to accept that they can only see others in theory but not really lol.

Has anyone else noticed this?