Little over a year ago my wife and I (more of my idea honestly) decided to go for an open marriage. She's much more on the monogamy end than me. And the arrangement was that I had the freedom to play from time to time and if she decided to go out on a date then she's more than welcome to.

In the past year I had some fun with some interesting people. Nothing super permanent, kinda a let down on that end, but still fun non the less. And my wife have been going to a couples therapist throughout that time.

But as of recently my wife just couldn't handle it anymore. When I was going to discuss the logistics of my date (was going to happen tomorrow) last Friday my wife broke down. She told me that her head is totally for this arrangement, but her heart isn't.

She wants me to go out and have fun, she loves to see me happy and swoon after a hot and fun date. But her heart breaks a little bit every time. So after some crying and hugging I decided to call it off with my date. I was courteous enough with my date that I offered to pay for all the cancellation bill for the hotel and my...."side woman" is more than understanding (bless her heart).

It's kinda a bummer. But it is what it is. My wife and I agreed that it might be good for both of us to go see separate therapists. My wife hasn't been to a therapist solo, I have because I'm a veteran. And I know it will be super good for her to go. And my wife told me that she'll sort things out and that maybe, when her heart is comfortable we'll revisit opening the marriage.