Ok, so simply put. My ex left, doesn't live at the house, she's still on the deed and has so far has refused/dragged out signing the quit claim deed. I paid her portion of the house. We've got 3 kids who live with me at the house.

So whatever I'm working on that part and it'll take awhile I'm sure, she's dragging it all out because she has mental/medical issues. And shes a bit of a control freak.

Getting to the current issue at hand. I installed a camera outside that looks at the house's back door so I can check on the house when I'm not home. As well as check on the kids if they get home before me (that they got in the door).

So she realized awhile ago that I can see the video remotely, now she wants access to it. To "be able to check on the when the kids get home"

This being said I've got a few concerns. She didn't buy the camera, she doesn't live there. I will say I've brought a date or two back to the house in the past 3 years (Only when the kids are with her, and not at the house). I have kept my dating on the down low as she has a lot of mental issues, and I don't need arguments/etc. or some completely freak out reaction. Granted I had to deal with seeing her and her BF several times on Facebook, and IRL a few times. But now she doesn't remember any of that (part of her mental breakdown). I truthfully don't tell the kids about my dates other that I'm going out with some friends, or a coworker as they've had to deal a lot of crap with the ex being a complete mess.

So now it feels like she wants to monitor the house, who's coming or going. And it's not her place to, I have primary custody, she has partial, 1 dinner a week and every other weekend. What do you think about giving her access to the camera, the app automatically notifies you every time it detects motion. So if I bring a lady back, more then likely she'll end up seeing it, and potentially they kids will. Not that I'm doing anything on my deck.

Update: so I ended up talking to her for a bit, she kept on basically arguing that it doesn't matter if she doesn't live there she needs to be able to monitor our kids.. After a bit more trying to get her to understand it's a privacy issue and a boundary. Any case I told her I would check, then 15 min later told her it wouldn't let two people monitor the camera.. Yes it was a lie. But the discussion ended..