Hello everyone. Hope you all had a good Christmas.

I did not. I tried to initiate with my wife 3 times over the weekend. No results. I asked her why not, and she told me that "I'm not ovulating, so why have sex?" I was kind of dumbfounded.

We talked a lot yesterday. She said she only wants to have sex for a baby. Not for her pleasure, not to experiment or learn about each other, just for a baby. I said that we should be having sex to be closer to each other, to feel good, all of that. It doesn't matter to her. No oral sex either way, no other positions besides missionary, no toys. Only have sex when she is ovulating and I can't climax unless it is inside her during this time.

I told her I want to enjoy it. I don't want it to feel like a chore or that structured. She said "that's too bad, cause that is when we are having sex." I told her I should just fill up a syringe with my stuff and give it to her at this point cause there isn't much difference. She didn't deny it...

So now here I sit bored at work hearing stories of coworker's Christmas sexual escapades and I get to just feel sorry for myself.

----EDIT-----: Thank you everyone. This is way more than I thought I would ever get, and I appreciate all of the support.

I am talking to her tonight about it. About everything. I will post an update tonight or tomorrow.

We knew we were saving ourselves for marriage, and she did talk about wanting sex beforehand. I thought we would be more active and adventurous, especially because she said that she would want to.

Then her friend got pregnant and this all took a 180. I will post more in my update.

-----EDIT #2-----: I talked to her. Here is the newer post https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/zwrkan/update_my_26m_wife_27f_only_views_sex_as_a_way_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button