Since the day we got married there have been sexual problems. I always wanted more sex than her and we agreed to 3-4 times a week, with one time having multiple orgasms. She refused to do oral sex before we got married, but promised it on the wedding night. On the wedding night, she reneged. It was painful to watch her try it and I just decided to go without it. So for 26 years she has not gone down on me.

The sex got less and less over time, especially when she got pregnant, but if it wasn’t one excuse it was another. So I cheated twice out of desperation, the last time was about 10 years ago.

Over the past few years something very strange happened. My daughters moved off to college and we became empty nesters. And then my son died at 39 years old. And when I didn’t have so much to keep me busy like spending time with family stuff, the lack of sex became more unbearable.

Am I in the right place to tell my story?