Non native English speeker posting for firsttime.

Bit of a history:

We both worked for the same company(IT) but different projects, and we met each other in badminton court. She is a very kind, smart, and down to earth person. We become good friends and slowly progress into a relationship. Before marriage, we kissed and fooled around a little bit, but no sex. She wanted to save it for the marriage. As a man, I respected her.

After marriage:

She wanted a baby after 6 months of staying together. Since condoms are not 100% safe, we did not have sex for the first 6 months. At this stage, we were living in the Netherlands and want to move to Australia. Now, her plan was to have a baby once we have our own house to live, so the baby doesn't want to learn dutch and english, etc.. complications. The PR process took another 3 years. All these times, I need to beg for oral sex. Most of the I go down on her, and she will orgasm about 2 to 3 min maximum, and that's it. She is not interested in sex anymore. I like to go down on her, so I take it as a win and consider it's better than nothing even if I did not get anything in return.

In Australia:

Finally, we came to Sydney. After tones of reading about dead bedrooms, I had a Heart to heart, open conversations with her, and explained how sex is important to me, etc.. Now she doesn't want to have a baby because we have a difference in sex drive, and she knows I am not happy due to lack of sex. From day one, if she is performing oral to me, it's a choir for her. She wants me to finish as fast as possible. Sometimes, she gives up in between. Trust me, I don't have super man's stamina. She doesn't enjoy the whole process, and that makes me not enjoy it as well. In year 6, we had our first PIV, and it was super painful for her. As the title says, we managed a handful of times until this date.

Where me and my wife are now:

If I want to stay with her, I should not expect sex for life. Maybe we might have a baby once we decide to stay together, or we can divorce.

My thoughts:

If I am with a woman who enjoys sex, I can do it 5 times a week so I can safely say I like sex. At the same time, except sex she is a nice human being, I love her. If you can take a paper and write the quality of a nice human being except sex. I bet she has all of it. I am struggling to choose between her or me. If I choose me, she will take some part of me alone with her at the same time, if I choose her, some part of me will be dying every day.

Please be kind to me, I am already going through a lot. I like to hear what you people think about my situation and what decisions you will take.

Some random stuff:

I do most of the cooking in-house, and I clean the house once a week. I help her little now and then with her office work, etc..