We have minimal contact. You text me, call me, invite me over, and I usually ignore you. Sometimes I respond saying no thanks or I’m busy. Sometimes I actually say sure and go over. Those times I go you always say something that puts me down. Why?

You know I’m still angry over the divorce. You know I’m still angry over how you abandoned us. Yet I give you a chance and you keep ruining it.

I can be feeling fine and when I see you all you can say is “wow you got big” when I’ve actually lost some weight. Last week we had an open house at work and I invited you last minute thinking I can show off what I’ve helped build with this agency. Sure you seemed ok but when we talked about my long hours all you can say is “oh that’s probably because you’re still getting used to the job. You’re still new.”

Like… I’ve been in this role for a year and I am doing GREAT at my job. I’m a damn fine manager. I work long hours, but so do all the managers. Even the more experienced ones. We’re just BUSY.

You used to call me lazy, but when I’m doing something productive you can’t just say “wow that’s great” or “I hope you’re taking care of yourself”?