I enjoy arranging encounters where my girlfriend is with other men, particularly black men. I’ve set up these situations several times with friends with benefits, and I find satisfaction in every aspect of the planning process. Admitting my interest in not only group sex but also in seeing her with black men has always made me a bit hesitant. I’m not sure why, but I find the contrast appealing.

It’s not about race or any sort of hierarchical perspective; it’s simply the dynamic that excites me. Seeing her with exceptionally fit and attractive black men is intensely stimulating for me. I’ve even been involved in bisexual encounters myself (which is a whole other thing to work through)

Sharing this interest with partners feels awkwar. Is anyone else experiencing this? Can you embrace this aspect of your sexuality and still be considered “normal”? It sometimes feels like it’s judged or misunderstood.