Hey Reddit,
Since the turn of the year, my partner and I have been exploring the world of chastity cages, off and on. It's an intriguing dynamic where she holds the key to my orgasms, and I can "earn" my release by taking good care of myself.
We're in a long-distance relationship and get to see each other approximately twice a week. When we're apart, she doesn't seem to mind whether or not I'm caged, which poses a bit of a challenge for me.
The cage definitely enhances my orgasms, making them feel like rare and special experiences. However, my struggle comes in maintaining the discipline to stay caged when she's not actively engaged or concerned about it. Frankly, I lack the self-control to commit to it without the direct motivation of not wanting to let her down.
She's shared that whether I'm caged or not doesn't affect how she sees me - in her eyes, I'm a perfect lover either way. When we're physically together, she loves taking the reins, guiding me on how to pleasure her. During these times, our dynamic is utterly fulfilling.
However, when we're apart, she doesn't find the same level of enjoyment from our chastity arrangement. She feels she's not deriving any direct benefits or fun from it, largely due to the distance and her not feeling involved.
I could really use her ongoing involvement and encouragement with our kink because of my lack of self control, not disappointing her is a great motivation for me but she just doesn't care when I'm by y self. I'm curious if any of you have been in similar situations. Do you have any strategies, or playful ideas to make chastity play more engaging and enjoyable for your long-distance partner.
Thanks in advance for any insights or suggestions you might have!