I like the idea of having friends, but I don't seem to be good at it anymore. I swear it never used to be this hard, but as a single 48-year-old introverted disabled man, things haven't exactly fallen into place as far as new friendships go. I'm honest, and helpful, and give too much at times, but I never seem to be in the same place in life as the person I'm trying to cultivate the friendship with, and it just seems to die.

So, what might work for me going forward? Quid pro quo. I do something for you, you do something for me, and vice versa. And no, to be clear, this has nothing to do with where your mind may have just went. For example, I am good with technology and home automation equipment. I am not good at mowing my yard. Sure, I can hire someone to fulfill that particular need, but it feels impersonal and, besides, there are lots of other tasks I am not good at that are not readily available to be hired out for. I might need help decluttering, and you might need help selling something on eBay. That's what friends are for, right? Well, transactionally, yes, that is the kind of friend I think realistically I can keep right now. At the same time, I do like helping others and I like to use my gifts and skills to assist when my friends have needs. Anyway, I think you get the gist of it, perhaps?

If anyone wants to be my quid pro quo friend I promise I'll be a good one. I might not be interested in hearing about your family problems or health issues (at least initially), but perhaps I can help you with some current needs you have, and in exchange you can help me with some of mine, and I won't waste your time telling you all of my troubles. With time, a real friendship might actually develop. Who knows?

To see if we are a good fit, message me with some of your particular talents and gifts, and we will go from there. Here are my skills that I feel I am particularly well-versed in and are willing to use in this capacity:

Most things Technology related (computers, Windows, android, home automation, Alexa, network setups, troubleshooting, Internet, downloads), eBay sales, quasi-legal paperwork/document preparation or helping craft responses to company inquiries or government requests for information, budgeting, tax preparation/assistance, research (on certain subjects or products), and teaching any or all of the above skills.