We have been friends since roommates in college. Our relationship has been off all year. She never agreed with the steps I made to change for the better. She sided with my family as I confronted them about the ways our dis-functionality has impacted me. I was “villianising them” when I chose speaking out a month after my grandma passsed, I was “selfish” for not bending over backwards for my sister for her wedding, I’ve changed “not for the better” and apparently this is all due to my bf influencing me. Like what?! This started way before he and I were even talking. She and my family just want a scapegoat they can’t accept they are the ones who are the issue and I chose to change things for myself. She loves to hate my bf and when I point out the good he does all of a sudden I “have him on a pedestal” - and apparently I can ask “anyone of my family bc they were concerned enough to reach out to her.” But she wouldn’t tell me who or when. Fuck them all - they have been giving me the silent treatment for months, probably expecting me to come groveling back. And I’m not gonna lie, it’s been hard not to but I know I’m better for it. I’m finally taking care of me first. My sister is pregnant with her first kid - we were best friends also till she used me to be the most wonderful maid of honor and tossed me away like a used Kleenex. It cuts me hard that everything I’ve heard about her pregnancy has come from pulling it out of my mom. She wanted to talk last week (finally!) and I was positive about it. Till the last minute when she decided to ask if Id got the invite for the baby shower. Queue cluelessness. It’s in March, our older sis is planning it at my folks house. Like, I guess at this point I should be grateful anyone told me at all. Thank goodness I have better relationships I made I can fall back on. I feel like a fool for believing they wanted to grow with me.