I'm a neglect case, rather than abuse. As is common, I am rather emotionally numb.

I'm seeking triggers, both to help resolve my fractured selves, and to push my tolerance band for emotional stress.

I just found one: Other people arguing. I've got my wife looking for good shows to illustrate this. I tried it on youtube, but without a setup, I'm not involved with any of the characters enough, and it washes over with only a faint tint of anxiety. (This is interesting: I don't remember *ever* hearing my parents or siblings argue. My sister says that my mother regularly melted down over something once a week.)

So my first question is: "How do you go about deliberately seeking triggers?" You can answer this in the negative, "I never do X because it's too triggering.

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I've found some songs to be cathartic -- sad, with my heart left aching, tears streaming from my eyes. The occasional movie has done that to me.

What movies/songs broke you up inside?

The third question: Are there 'happy triggers' Things that make you remember times of joy, excitement, exhilaration, laughter and remember them in greater detail than otherwise?

So far the only way I've found these is to take something I dimly remember and write about it. As I write, more of my feelings come back. The easiest emotion for me to recover this way is anger. I'd like to be able to recover others, as I think it will help broading the range of things I feel.