I feel like too many people on here come to vent and never return once things are better to offer some advice. So that’s what I’m here for. I am an extremely emotional and romantic person. I have been married, divorced, lied to, blindsided, been through multiple heartbreaks… it can become absolutely agonizing.

When you experience heartbreak, it’s debilitating. And it’s so easy to fall into the hole of thinking too universal. Things like “I’m never going to feel love like that again,” “I’ll never be happy like that,” “I know he/she was the right person for me,” on and on, you get the picture.

These thoughts are NATURAL. They are not unique to you and your situation. And they are almost definitely not true. I don’t care how badly your sad anxious brain wants you to believe it.

So, how do you push through? Just that—you push. Everything hurts but you do it anyway and you do it as much as possible. More than usual. Call your friends, make plans to go out to dinner, do chores around the house, play some music and sing at the top of your lungs, go to games and concerts…. Do ALL the things.

You will hate it. You’ll feel so sad because even though you’re doing the things you once loved, they can’t bring you joy right now. You’ll feel like you’re broken. Like you can’t experience happiness anymore. This is part of the process. The truth is that if you continue to push forward understanding that THIS FEELING WILL END…. It does. Eventually it fades. Things start to become fun again. You get closer to others around you. You finally move on and are already in a life that you want.

Remember, heartbreak is a natural, common human experience that billions and billions of people throughout history have gone through. It’s going to be okay.

Edit:

I’m so thrilled this is helping people. I’ve received so many messages, and I welcome it with open arms! I’ve been where you are. I’ve posted on this Reddit before sharing my pain. And I’m happy now. I’m so good. You will be too.