I am a fairly androgynous looking man (although part of it is medically out of my control being trans) with an androgynous/"expression fluid" style. I have had only men be interested in me for the vast majority before and after I started to transition to male. I have been dressing the way I want since I was 15-16 years old. I always found my non-conformity to be a tough pill for some to swallow, including occasionally homophobic sours and stares at me.

I attract a lot of "straight" and bisexual men and have attracted one or two gay men. Most were tops, some were Vers tops and a few who were Vers bottoms or bottoms. Hardly any women have ever been attracted to me that I know of. I have had sex with some women when swinging alone or with my ex bf and that's it. It seems by myself it's hard to find women who like me. I wonder if it's because they aren't sure what I am or if I look "too butch" yet "too fem". I am short at 5ft5/165cm but "average weight" and I try to dress smart casual most of the time and keep good hygiene. I think not many women like androgynous men, many of them have higher standards for what is attractive in a man Vs a woman.

I consider myself a polite guy and I get on with women but I have a hard time talking to them in a flirtatious way. I've not had much experience in it and I am autistic. I don't understand their ways of talking in a flirtatious way, I need people to be direct with me or I won't understand. I've known I was attracted to women for longer than to men.

Now I am not one of these incel idiots and I am satisfied enough with men being into me as I'm bi but it is an insecurity of mine.