I am not the original poster. Originally posted by u/After_Consequence177 on r/AmItheAsshole.

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Since this is a post about dogs, here is a dog fact: dogs can hold scents in their nose from sniffing even while breathing in and out with their lungs. Their noses work best when moist which is why they are normally a little (or a lot) damp.

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Content Warning: pet death

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AITA for asking my friend to move out because he kept feeding my dog junk food? (26 Oct 2022)

One of my friends, James, recently moved in with me. James and I have known each other for about five years now. My former roommate had to relocate for a new job and James' lease at his previous apt was up so I invited him to rent out my spare room. I have an elderly dog, Arrow, I adopted from the pound 10 years ago who has been with me through some of the toughest times in my life. Aside from being elderly, he also has a very delicate stomach and is on a special medicated feed. About three months into living together, Arrow began frequently throwing up. As I mentioned he's old and has health problems, so I assumed that this was a sign of his condition naturally worsening with time and took him to the vet. I learned from the vet that the his condition had been exaserbated by the change to his diet. I was immediately confused, since I wasn't feeding Arrow anything but his prescription feed.

I soon found out that James has been giving Arrow 'snacks' without my knowledge. Things like bacon, french fries, chips, pizza crust...just all types of greasy, unhealthy human food that was terrible for him. I was upset, since James knows that Arrow is own prescription feed but I told him about the vet visit and told him not to give Arrow anything to eat, reiterating that he had already had stomach problems and could only have his special feed. At the time James apologized and said he understood. But a few weeks later, Arrow is throwing up again.

You guessed it - James was still giving him junk food. I confronted him again and he defended himself by saying he only gave it to Arrow occassionally, when he looked really hungry. This time I lost my temper and it turned into a bit of a fight, with me again telling him he can't give Arrow ANYTHING, EVER. I was maybe harsher, more aggressive than I should have been that second time but I was really furious that he didn't comprehend he is killing my dog out of stubborness. It turned into a week us of being very curt to each other and barely speaking. Eventually is sort of blew over and we went back, mostly to normal. Unfortunately, "normal" also included James AGAIN giving my dog "snacks" that made him sick.

I decided that that was it. As they say, three strikes you're out. I told James that he would have to find a new place to live. As you might expect, he was furious. It turned into a massive fight and we're not speaking to each other. Our mutual friends have been trying to mediate. They're argument is that Arrow doesn't have much longer to live so what's wrong with letting him enjoy some unhealthy things and that this would effectively result in ending my friendship with James.

AITA for kicking him out?

Judgement: NTA

Top Comment:

NTA and kick the "mediators" out too. The guy is making your dog sick and killing him. If they don't understand boundaries they shouldn't be in you life

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UPDATE AITA for asking my friend to move out because he kept feeding my dog junk food? (5 Jan 2023)

First of all, I want to thank everyone who commented and made me feel confident in my decision. I had a few messages from some of you asking for an update on what happened.

James moved out and, as far as I know, is staying with family while looking for a new place. We are no longer friends/are now NC with each other. I still talk to our mutuals, which is who I heard updates from his situation from. They've remained neutral though and for the most part don't bring him up around me anymore.

Unfortunately, Arrow passed away a few weeks before Christmas. He had major organ failure and urinary infection and was in a lot of pain with no chance of significant improvement so I had to make a very hard choice. It's been difficult getting through the holidays, but I wanted to provide an update because the fact that Arrow is loved and remembered by not just me but a whole bunch of people he never even met is a little bit of comfort.

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Reminder: I am not the original poster. Originally posted by u/After_Consequence177 on r/AmItheAsshole.