I am not the original poster. Originally posted by a deleted account in 2020 in r/dating_advice.

Let me tell you what happened when someone I met years ago contacted me again. (14 April 2020)

Last month before the lockdown, I (32F) got a message from someone whom I met 6 years ago. What happened in 2014 was that I was at a bar with a few of my friends and I saw this cute guy with his friends walking in. When the guy and I saw each other, our eyes just locked. He then came to introduce himself and talked to me right away. I still remember the feeling of butterflies when he came over. I felt very flattered that he found me cute. I found him cute too. We had fun talking, but he had to leave. We didn’t exchange numbers, but he asked me to send him a message on Instagram. We exchanged a few messages afterwards, and we stopped. It didn’t go anywhere.

One night last month, he went to read his old direct messages on Instagram to see if he had missed anything. He got entertained, so he kept reading old messages until he reached our messages from 6 years ago. The next morning, he decided to say hi. When I got his message, I was surprised. I remembered him, but I already had forgotten about him. I looked at his profile. He looks as cute as before, just in the 30-something version of himself. I felt good being contacted by him, but I really did not think much about any of it. I am single so I am open to talking to him because I remember clearly how he made me feel on that particular day 6 years ago.

Believe it or not, we have been chatting all day every day. We’ve video called, and he would call me sometimes as well. We are learning about each other since we can’t yet meet. We are interested in meeting each other again after this is over. He has been asking to see me in person since the beginning of the lockdown, but I don’t think it is a responsible thing to do. I promise him that once this is over, it will happen. With him talking to me every day about everything, it made me realized that he genuinely is interested in getting to know me as a person, and that is a good feeling. I hope we continue talking until we can meet again. I can honestly say I am content with where we are at the moment.

I want to say to all of you who are not sure about reaching out to someone to just do it. Just contact them. They may be available and open to get to know you again. You won’t know until you find out for yourselves. If you get pass the first step, please know that talking without meeting is hard work. However, this is a great opportunity to get to know someone on a deeper level. If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work, but I still strongly encourage you to start it. I am from the receiving end of this, and I am glad he reached out to me. He has made me happy.

Good luck to all!

UPDATE: Let me tell you what happened when someone I met years ago contacted me again. (10 June 2020)

I wrote this post two months ago, and I have an update.

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The two of us finally met. We spent time together, we cuddled, we kissed, we had sex. We did everything two adults who genuinely like each other do. Everything felt great and everything felt right.

I have to admit that although I am a good people reader, comments from my last post made me quite cautious about the possibility of him being a fuckboy or of him not having good intentions with me. I’ve heard stories both from Reddit and in real life about people being ghosted or people fading away from one’s life especially after they got intimate. I’d be lying if that didn’t scare me. It did.

Before we got intimate, I thought really hard about what he wanted from me. For weeks of us chatting, there was not a day – not one – that he was not in constant communication with me. I also thought that there was nothing convenient about meeting me because I kept refusing to meet him even though I knew that he was really serious about quarantine (and so was I). Yet, he didn’t give up. When we got upset with each other, and he never sent any signals that he wanted to end or rethink things – not once. With all of that, I felt that his actions had proven his intentions. In the back of my mind, though, I still had this “possible ghosting” thought. I told myself that if his intentions were bad, it’d be good for me to be ghosted early on anyway..so what should I be worried about?

From all of the thinking I did, I felt the time was right and I was ready to connect on a deeper level with him. I am an adult and I knew what I was getting myself into. The intimacy was beautiful and fun. It felt equal. It felt vulnerable yet secure at the same time. It was worth the wait. After I left his place the first time we got intimate, in my head I was like “ok let’s see what happens now”. An hour after “ding!”, he texted me. It made me smile. We continued being us from then until now. Nothing changed him or me or us one bit. That’s when I knew that he didn’t really have any games, and his interest in me was more than genuine.

I feel like I’ve gone past the “Does he like me?” phase. It’s so clear and it feels good. Not having to guess how someone feels about me is such a blessing. Now we only have to work on us and see where this goes.

Thanks for reading and for allowing me to share my story. I hope it is helpful for you.

Good luck to you all.

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Reminder: I am not the original poster. Originally posted by a deleted account in 2020 in r/dating_advice.