About Me

I'm an lifestyle domme with quite a few years' experience. I currently have a 24/7 TPE dynamic with my primary sub. Dominance is a natural part of who and how I am. That said, that said, I am human, I have hobbies, and I'm very happy to have a chat about most topics.

I have enough crafty hobbies that any visit to Hobbycraft would create serious insolvency issues.

Other than that, I'll reading pretty much anything. I am a terminally curious sort of person, and I am yet to be bored by someone talking about something they're really passionate about - if you would like a chat, feel free to skip the small talk and tell me about something you're interested in / an expert in / just find really awesome in your first message. The more obscure, the better.

When I can find the time and energy, I write assorted things, such as my blog. The occasional board game doesn't hurt (I like complex but not too complex strategy games, think 'Settlers of Catan' -eqsue), and nothing really gets me wound up like costuming inaccuracies in period dramas.

I have a dog, so anyone who has dogs / loves them is very welcome.

Friends

I am first and foremost looking for friends in the community, particularly whom I can meet up with in-person for coffee / dog walk / some board games, but online is okay too. I've met a few people through here, but I'd like to meet more!

Dommes, subs, and anything in between welcome - really, anyone who can hold a conversation. By all means, feel free to skip the small talk, I prefer my conversations to have substance.

I'd love to acquire more kink friends in real life - D/s is a big part of my life and I find it easier to connect with people who share it.

If you feel like you'd enjoy some chill socialisation, talk about kink, life, and anything else, do send me a message.

Kink Things

I'm also looking for a sub or switch, male or female, who would be interested in a variety of double scenarios with my sub. I am looking to get to know someone to this end, build something of a dynamic and friendship with. I am not looking to slot someone into a pre-existing fantasy.

What I'm looking for:

• Regardless of gender, I'm looking for someone I can get on with and can form a friendship with. This means being able to hold a conversation. Be interesting, engage me as a person.
• Experience is preferred, a sense of humour is required.
• Correct spelling and grammar is appreciated.
• Please be aged 20-35ish.
• Scope for irl meeting - I'm not looking for online-only play.

I am after power exchange and control more than anything else, so my exact preferences change depending on an individual's 'buttons'. Dominance and submission are mental far more than they are physical, in my opinion.

My limits: anything illegal, scat, age play, any actively animal-like pet play, sissification.

My Kinks

D/s is reactionary, so I don't have a favourite kink / fetish. It depends on the person, the context, my mood and so on. Here's a non-exhaustive list:

• Any form of power exchange, including tasks, restrictions, rules, protocol etc
• Bondage, (especially shibari) particularly creative applications, like predicaments; gags, restraint in general
• Sensory deprivation and prolonged bondage
• Humiliation and degradation (specific to the person)
• CNC (given the appropriate degree of trust)
• Service submission

Masochism is appreciated, not required, but for those so inclined, I also enjoy:

• All forms of impact play (caning, flogging, paddling, etc)
• All manner of clamps, pegs, ziplines etc.
• Emotional sadism in all its diverse forms

(If you're a newbie male sub inclined to preface your message with 'I don't know anything about BDSM', the above section is most likely not for you.)

Voyeurs

I'd love to find a friend to discuss what I do to my sub and encourage me in writing up my exploits.

Any voyeurs with suggestions, particularly female ones, or who might be interested in some sort of live stream set are also very welcome. (This would require getting to know you a bit, so really not for someone looking for quick porn).

Questions

If anyone has any kink-related questions, whether you're a newbie or a veteran with a rant to share - feel free to message me. I'm always up for an interesting conversation.

(Just to pre-empt the most commonly asked question, being dominant is a part of who and how I am, it's not something I 'got into'.)

Note

Messages which:

• address me as 'Mistress' or by any other honorific;
• are one liners or a variant on 'hey';
• ask if you can be my sub (spoiler: if you're asking, the answer is a resounding 'no');
• are obvious copy / pastes; or
• are lists of physical characteristics

will in all probability be ignored.

I'm a person and so are you, let's have a (reasonably) normal conversation.

Please use the chat. I will not reply to DMs or comments under this post.

If you've messaged me before and didn't get a reply, (and your message wasn't in one of the above categories), do try again - it can be difficult to keep track of my inbox sometimes :)