About Me

I'm a lifestyle domme with quite a few years' experience. I currently have a 24/7 TPE dynamic with my primary sub. Dominance is a part of who and how I am. That said, that doesn't mean how I am in space is how I am all of the time towards everybody.

I'll reading pretty much anything. I have enough crafty hobbies that any visit to Hobbycraft would create serious insolvency issues.

I write assorted things, including my blog, when I can muster the motivation (and I'd really like to write more D/s related things). The occasional video or board game doesn't hurt, and nothing really gets me wound up like costuming inaccuracies in period dramas.

I have two dogs, so anyone who has dogs / loves them is very welcome.

Friends

I'm looking for friends in the community, particularly whom I can meet up with in-person for coffee / games / dog walk (but online is okay too). I've met a few people through here, but I'd like to meet more!

Dommes, subs, and anything in between welcome - really, anyone who can hold a conversation.

I'd love to acquire more kink friends in real life - I always feel like I'm missing something in vanilla friendships. D/s is quite a creative pursuit, but I can't very well tell my vanilla friends I built a cage, or that my new interest in leatherwork is really for nefarious ends.

D/s is a big part of my life and I find it easier to connect with people who share it.

I'd love to make more irl domme friends. Kinksters tend to be my sorts of people. If you feel like you'd enjoy some chill socialisation, maybe play some board games, talk about kink, life, and anything else, do send me a message.

Questions

If anyone has any kink-related questions, whether you're a newbie or a veteran with a rant to share - feel free to message me. I'm always up for an interesting conversation.

Just to address some common points - being dominant is a part of who and how I am. It's not a role I play or something I 'got into'.

BDSM is a large part of my life, so I don't have a favourite experience. D/s is reactionary, so I don't have a favourite kink / fetish either. It depends on the person, the context, my mood etc.

Kink Things

Any dommes are really welcome, I'd love to make friends. I do have some kink focused ideas - say, making friends with a newbie domme, and letting her practice on my masochist, or having a high protocol tea party type situation - but honestly these are half-baked fantasies. But if that kind of thing interests you, or might interest you, that's an added bonus!

I'm also looking for a sub or switch, male or female, who would be interested in a variety of double scenarios with my sub. I am looking to get to know someone to this end, build something of a dynamic and friendship with, rather than merely slot them into an existing fantasy.

Age wise, I'm looking for someone 20-30ish.

Hard limits: anything illegal, scat, age play, any actively animal-like pet play, sissification.

Asides from the above, most things are fair game, however below are some preferences:

I am after power exchange and control more than anything else, so my exact preferences change depending on an individual's 'buttons'. Dominance and submission are mental far more than they are physical.

I love bondage (particularly shibari) and I love applying it creatively. I'm particularly fond of predicaments.

Oh, and I'm very much a sadist. Masochism is appreciated, but fellow sadists interested in joining me with my sub are equally welcome.

(If you're a newbie male sub inclined to preface your message with 'I don't know anything about BDSM', this part is most likely not for you.)

Note

Sadly, those at whom this is targeted probably won't read it. Nonetheless, here it goes: for the love of all that's green, whoever you are, don't consign your message to the biohazard bin by calling me 'Mistress' , or any other honorific, for that matter.

I'm a person and so are you (hopefully), let's have a (reasonably) normal conversation.

Please use the chat. I will not reply to DMs.

I am not looking for online play.

Messages which are just a list of kinks and physical characteristics, one liners, and obvious copy paste messages will go to the bottom of my list of priorities.

If you've messaged me before and didn't get a reply, (and your message wasn't in one of the above categories), do try again - it can be difficult to keep track of my inbox sometimes :)