I’m a 35 y.o. DaddyDom living in Youngstown.  Sadly, I have no intention of leaving this hive of …culture? I’m happy and content with my current position and status in my career which can only be negatively affected by any sort of promotion.  I’m 5’6”, stocky/Dad bod but a dad that runs (if that makes sense?). Think linebacker and lumberjack. Shaved head but a nice beard and green eyes (that apparently change color with my mood).  No tattoos or body mods yet but I do have some planned. Despite my strength, I’m excessively polite and formal with everyone.  I tend to always go the extra mile to help people with things; this sometimes gets me into trouble but nothing I overly regret.  College educated fully functioning independent adult for the most part. Personality-wise, I’ve been described as a mix between Sherlock Holmes (probably due to the high functioning autism) and Hannibal Lecter (probably due to my fascination with the mind and my love of cooking) but with a dark sense of humor.  

Ideally, I would like to find something long term but with it would come a lengthy courting period. I’m in no rush and would like to weigh any and all options thoroughly.  I’m not going to turn down the possibility of other relationships unless I have one that is regular and consistent.  I’ve done online only and LDR; ultimately, I need an in person connection.  Exclusivity has to be earned; and, yes, I realize that that is a two way street but so is communication. ("Online only and monogamous" isn't going to happen.) A few former ones have recently/frequently commented how safe and secure they felt with me.  I’m protective but I’m not a micromanager. I like frequent communication; my job, though demanding, still has me with a lot of free time during the day and I like to text/instant message a lot. I do like a minimum once a day text, even if it’s just: “Hey! I’m alive but dealing with some stuff. I’ll catch you up tomorrow?”

Honesty is one of the things I value more than just about anything else; I don’t lie (the truth tends to be more fun).  I tried doing forever before but it was subverted. I’m not opposed to it but I am wary of it. I would want the relationship to go with the flow and not be hellbent on plowing through what could hold us up.  It’s about growth; not just independently but together.   I’m really big on consent.  Strange as this may sound: I am a feminist and I respect a woman's right to choose (especially if that choice is to bottom in a power exchange).  I’ve been poly in the past but I feel I was coerced into that mainly because my partner ultimately wasn’t a good fit.  Not to mention big on PDA.  I don’t really believe in marriage; I think two people can be in a committed relationship with one another without getting the government involved but I don’t rule it out either. I should mention I do have a pre-started family from my last marriage; three girls who are my world and rule my life.  They’re honestly the only women I’m ok with submitting and catering to the every whim of. I don’t really forsee myself having anymore kids as my hands are already pretty full with the ones I have.  

Still here? Good.  Let’s continue!

I am a very good mix of DaddyDom and Sadist. I’ve been in the lifestyle since before I was 18 and I continue to learn about it every opportunity that I get. I’m very effective and efficient with my impact play; my crop and cane are extensions of my being. The paintbrushes of my art. I’ve even taught classes in my local kink community on impact play and other topics. Rope is a relatively recent addition to my skill set (last two years or so) but one I’m very skilled and dedicated to it.  My style of dominance tends to be quite the yin-yang: I will be cuddled up one moment ready to watch a movie or play a video game with my partner then, suddenly, “I’m going to go get some rope. You wait here.” Or going from a very heavy session to a dinner party afterwards.  Other primary kinks include, but not limited to: power exchange dynamics, biting, hair pulling, orgasm control, slave training, DDlg, TPE, CNC, breathplay, anal, recieving body worship/oral, cunninglus, petplay (I like kitties), ballgags, stockings and platform heels. Fishnet is the most surefire way to get my attention. I don’t switch; I can’t take pain I can only give it. While that may trigger some warning flags, let me explain: my high functioning autism not only effects my interpersonal interactions but also impacts (pun unintended but I’ll leave it) my sensory intake. A few smacks of an implement on my hand and it’s like my brain does countless calibrations on it.

Vanilla stuff: I have been living off the land to the best of my ability; only so much I can do with a rental property. But I spent a fair amount of time in my youth observing the Amish and really respect their way of life. I do currently have a chicken coop (which I built myself) with 16 birds (one of which is a guinea fowl).  I’m looking to do some sugaring in the next few weeks and tap some of the maple trees in my backyard for syrup. Growing up, I was exposed and had experience raising just about every kind of farm animal (except llamas/alpacas for some reason…) and heavily considered becoming a vet. Eventually, I plan on getting house big enough for the basics of living. I often fantasize about getting one of those prebuilt sheds from Lowes/Home Depot and finishing it out (I’m also skilled in a lot of home repair by the way) to have as a play space to retire to once the kids are asleep. Even though I’m vegan (diet only for health reasons; it’s actually made me a really good cook) I do enjoy hunting and fishing (for food only but I’ve also been trying to devise a way to make big game hunting a research method), trapping, and general outdoors activities, including hiking and distance running.  I also enjoy video gaming, sports (especially football), movies, documentaries, music (classical to rock and especially metal), museums, zoos (I'm a walking Nat Geo special), boardgames, roleplaying games and more.  I’m like a jack of all trades and probably the best team member in a zombie apocalypse.