Who I am:

A career professional in his early 40s. Emotionally mature, well-adjusted, self-aware, easygoing. Good with people. Long and diverse list of hobbies but especially enjoys good cocktails and home cooking, cultural outings, the arts, creative pursuits, and time with dogs.

What I’m looking for:

An ongoing, long-term email correspondence with a submissive woman aged 21 who wants a strong but supportive Dominant presence in her life.

What I can offer:

I am firm, but nurturing and definitely on the softer side. I’m a thoughtful listener. In the past I’ve found myself at my best in arrangements where I am able to provide accountability, structure, guidance, and discipline within a framework of clear communication, rules and assigned tasks.

I enjoy using the dynamic to help a sub better herself; improve self-discipline, achieve goals, break bad habits, and/or establish healthy ones. I can work with you to identify areas where you struggle, help to set and pursue reasonable goals, and/or provide oversight and accountability. You might think of me as somewhere between a Daddy dom and a sort of… ‘life coach with benefits.’

I also enjoy providing opportunities and guidance to help explore new sexual interests and experiences. My goal is to provide a positive, supportive influence while also creating an environment that is exciting and sexually satisfying for both of us.

Who I’m looking for:

My ideal sub is eager, emotionally mature, and engaging. I prefer intelligent women who possess the self-awareness and communication skills to be an enjoyable correspondent as well as a serious participant in her own development.

I especially enjoy helping a woman overcome personal insecurities, appreciate herself more, and restore/reinforce self-confidence. I gravitate towards natural beauty and am most attracted to women in a more natural state.

What I’m not looking for:

I’m not a good match for someone who wants or needs a TPE, 24/7, or constant or on-demand attention & communication.

I enjoy some playful back and forth but am usually a poor match for bratty types and those for whom disobedience or conflict is a desired element of the relationship.

I am not looking for any kind of traditional romantic relationship, or to meet in person at any point.

Kinks & limits:

I especially like having a degree of control/supervision over diet, hygiene, dress and personal grooming. I also enjoy rules and tasks, dirty talk, permission play, orgasm control, light humiliation, spanking, pain play, watersports, and anal training.

My hard limits are specific age play, scat, true harm, animals, & illegality.

Format & time commitment:

I have my own life, and would assume that you do as well. I would expect one to two emails from you per week plus an additional hour or two to complete tasks and assignments, depending on what we get up to. I am not jealous or possessive, and will encourage you to chase whatever bliss outside of our arrangement.

I find a regular email exchange can be more manageable for those who find constant/unpredictable/unstructured communication stressful or difficult given real-world schedules and commitments. I’m a good match for someone who's looking for an enhancement to their existing life that doesn't overtake it.

The fine print!

Consent, comfort, boundaries, discretion, and personal privacy are top priorities for me. I want the real you, but also understand the desire for personal privacy/anonymity, provided the overall dynamic and arrangement remains intact and enjoyable for both of us.

If the above sounds appealing, or you think we might be a good fit, I’d like to hear from you.