It happens like this: I sigh, open my computer, type in the letters and this subreddit appears.

I have been doing this ritual, on and off, for almost two years. Looking for... you.

Well. This is awkward. I seem to know exactly what I am looking for but have completely neglected to introduce myself.

I am a grad student in the Palo Alto area (but in Los Gatos quite a bit), I am a compulsive reader and I like to write (poorly, but also well when I have the chance).

I am a homebody at heart, and when I drink I tend toward browns, but would never pass up a good cosmo. I only like browns because it means I am one step closer to a library with a leather chair and fireplace.

I am 420 free/prefer a nonsmoker. I don't smoke whatsoever.

I hope we can read together, or even write. I hope we can spend afternoons trying to figure out needlessly complex board games.

My friends would describe me as a border collie, and I want to have one and a few acres up in LG after I graduate. I like coffee shops quite a bit, but don't drink coffee. I miss the days that meet cutes existed and we weren't locked into our phones everyday.

I would probably do best with someone who takes time to admire the sky at least twice a day and who doesn't take my failed attempts at witty comebacks personally.

I have a poetic, but rather dense nature and consider myself somewhat morally gray. That being said, hard line -- no married men, but beyond that, I have heard both the worst and best of humanity and am equally fascinated.

People consider me somewhere between pretty and cute. On Reddit I am "beautiful" if that means anything. I am 5'9 and thin-ish.

I don't care much for what you look like but I have never preferred blondes. I also prefer much older men, but only due to quality of conversation. If you have made it this far, we will probably get along. (PS: include your favorite kind of bedsheet if you made it this far.)

To be clear, I am very much looking for a partner and (future) husband and am dating very intentionally for that.

So, the average redditor inquiries, why THIS sub? Why not elsewhere?

Beyond the vanilla stuff, I have a deep desire to be owned. Fundamentally. The technical, tactical stuff does not matter as much to me (ropes, handcuffs, etc... though that can be fun). It is all in the psychological. If you understand, you understand.

I want my Dom to be the center of my universe. I want to live to serve him.

I do have some specific interests, including DDlg/incest play but again, not interested in pacifiers or diapers. Just want a "Daddy" to worship. I like TPE dynamics that very much exist outside of the bedroom.

All of that being said, I truly only feel this way for someone after a deep and true connection is established. Please do not contact me unless you understand this.

Maybe I will find you soon. I hope I do.