There are a million-and-one M4F posts on here. Some are heartfelt and thorough, some are vaguely hopeful and shallow, far too many are shopping lists of kinks written by people who wouldn't know a healthy D/S dynamic if it suddenly slapped them about the face. Unfortunately, from what I can tell, a lot of men use kink as an excuse to just initiate / escalate a hookup. For me, sex is so much more.

A dominant-submissive relationship is a dynamic. It goes both ways. The dominant holds no power unless their submissive trusts them with it, and must work diligently to make sure they remain worthy of that control. Trust is absolutely everything, and it is always earned, never assumed.

About me

I'm 26, successful in my career, well traveled, and very well-read. I'm very into continuous learning (both about the world and about myself), meditation, running, cooking / eating healthy. I’ve frequently been called ambitious to a fault. Physically, I am white, very fit, and conventionally attractive.

No one would guess this aspect of my life if they just knew me day to day - I’ve spent a lot of the last few years getting very good at reading people - learning what they like but maybe haven’t explored due to taboo or not feeling safe enough to do so.

I can be extremely creative and sadistic; but also like to tease extensively and build gradually.

My ideal dynamic is something ongoing, with potentially some degree of group element (meaning a strong preference for bi women).

My preferred kinks include:

• Bondage (especially more complex set-ups and predicaments)
• Choking, slapping
• Prolonged teasing
• Pain - impact and other - with a very gradual build to high levels of intensity
• Manhandling, rough fucking
• Cuckquean, coerced-bi
• Roleplay / arranged and planned scenes more generally
• Light public playl
• Micromanagement, strict rules and full control over me during an agreed upon period
• Orgasm denial - potentially outside of scenes if we build trust

Hopefully it doesn't need to be said but I always play with safewords, and need to trust that someone will use them - until I do, it's hard to escalate to really intense encounters, so don't expect that we'll jump into the deep end right away. The tension and build, for me, is a big part of the appeal.

Who are you

First, if you and I wouldn’t have fun going out together, we won’t have fun in bed together. Chemistry is a firm pre-requisite.

Second, mutual trust and honesty are make-or-break. I’m putting myself out there in more ways than one, I expect you to honor and reciprocate that. And the rest you’ll just have to tell (or show) me yourself.

As to the type of person I'm looking for: you need to take care of yourself (mentally-emotionally-physically), have passions in life that you pursue, and your own interests. I'm not that concerned about age, although I strongly prefer girls younger than me. I'm equally turned on by the idea of teaching someone new and inexperienced as I am a well-established, confident women who yearns to give in to her darker desires.

As to what really gets me going: I'm very into brainy people with lots of repressed wants; or alpha women who yearn to give up control behind closed doors. I've also got a soft spot for bratty types. Cocktail dresses with exposed shoulders, for some reason, send me into a primal state.

If this intrigues, you will write to me after reading the below and tell me which appeals to you - your introduction should also include some general description (age, location, experience level with this, and a bit about your interests generally - I need mental chemistry to really enjoy being with a partner). I will expect verification soon into our interaction. Zero expectations or judgments if you get in touch.

Now, tell me what speaks to you - feel free to pick multiple as that seems fairly common:

• You look innocent. Somewhat classy, but deep inside, you have sick twisted fantasies and it makes you wet, just knowing how filthy you really are. How no one has a clue about it. You know you are sicker and filthier than most girls. Message me “I am dirty, Sir” if you belong to this category.
• You’re a nympho slut. A sex-addict. A cumwhore. Even while you function and do your daily chores, being filled, fucked and used is the only thing on the back of your mind. You pretend to be classy, but secretly you’re a wet mess all fucking day. Sex is the only thing on your mind. You could feel your pussy all day long, if you wouldn’t have to do chores. Just need the right man to use you and keep you on his leash, all day long. Message me “Break me, Sir” if you belong to this category.
• Humiliation. That’s what makes you cum. Being treated like trash. Being called names. Spit on. Slapped. Treated like a sex object with all dignity and self respect taken away. You feel guilty later on, after you’ve been used. After you cum. Yet within a few hours, you’re craving that degradation again. Caught in the vicious cycle again and you know there’s no escaping now. You’ll never be able to cum to a “nice” guy again. Message me “I am trash, Sir” if you belong to this category.
• You have a boyfriend. A lover, yet here you are. Cumming to rough, degrading writing. To women being used and half wishing it was you. Your partner has no idea you’re here and nor is he kinky or wild enough to use you like this. You need someone to use you like you were made to be used and cheating only makes this cunt drip more. Message me "Make me cheat, Sir” if you belong to this category.
• You enjoy pain. You need it to feel alive - the rush that it brings when mixed with pleasure sends you over the edge, again and again. Whether this be having your hair pulled, held down while being used; or completely bound, blindfolded and unaware of where and when the next exquisite sting will come. You need both pleasure and pain built to a point where you forget how much time is passing, where you can't control how hard your cumming. Message me "Hurt me, Sir" if you fall into this category.
• No strong father figure in your life? Even when you had one, you were neglected. Making you attracted towards a strong father figure from an early age. You want to call a guy “daddy” before doing everything in your way to please him. That’s how you’ll earn the affection you never got. You’re broken now and you’ve got daddy issues, but you’ve embraced it. Message me and say “You are my daddy” if you belong to this category.
• You want to be controlled, from what you think about to what you wear. Tasks and rules complete you. You want to be brainwashed. Corrupted. Left an addict by master until the point that you can’t say no, even when you want to. You act normal, but deep down inside you just want to be an owned, braindead sextoy. Once a good girl, now reduced to nothing but a vacant look and gaping holes. Message me and say “Brainwash me, Master” if you belong to this category.