Hello and thank you for showing interest in this ad. I am on the elusive search for my unicorn. It feels like a long and eventful adventure but I hope this post will spark enough interest for my search to finally end! Fingers crossed…

About me:

I am a white, bearded, bespectacled, cuddly (dad-bod) and experienced Dom. I am well-educated and well-spoken. I am told I am reasonably good-looking and appear young for my age. I have introduced many newbies to their kinky fantasies and consider myself safe, sane and consensual. You will be in good hands if you decide to get in contact. Outside of BDSM, I love art and design, cooking, films, wine, politics & much more.

I like a woman to submit to me in a way that gives me control of their sexual pleasure. Then use that control to dominate, train and nurture her in a caring and protective dynamic, with the intention of providing long and intense orgasms at a time and in a way of my choosing. I enjoy and delight in using all manner of techniques and kinks to see a woman beg and grovel for sexual release. I like to control and manipulate her sexual desire to turn her into a dripping, submissive mess, taking ownership of her orgasms to make her my sexual slave. 

While I am, in some respects, a Pleasure Dom, I am also a mild sadist, using a kinky mix of pain and pleasure to help build arousal. I enjoy using pegs, clamps, wax, ropes, paddles, whips, floggers, anal play, and a cane (when extreme pain is needed and wanted). However, the pain is always combined or followed up by the use of toys, fingers, mouth and cock to make sure your submission is suitably rewarded. So, I would want you to have masochistic tendencies and enjoy some or all of the pain/pleasure combinations. I especially love orgasm control and denial and would expect you to let me have complete control over you in that aspect of your life.

My general dominant demeanour is calm and controlled but firm with instructions and demands. I am not prone to shouting or aggression so I find most subs feel comfortable to call me their Daddy. But I am not into age play and have the usual limits of blood, scat, needles, knives etc. I do not like dealing with ‘brats’ so please don’t waste your time if you identify as one.

About you:

You are open-minded, ready and willing to explore your kinks and fantasies, want to get to know me and invest in building a strong dynamic. A well-formed and healthy D/s relationship simply cannot happen without taking time to build and nurture a trusting bond. So, I want us to date and form a romantic attachment as much as a kinky one. I want to date you as much as I want to ‘own’ you. It is absolutely essential that you want to build a lasting and committed relationship that moves into real-life meet-ups within a suitable period. Once we meet, I would expect us to meet regularly so please be close enough to London for that to be a reality.

Preferably, I want to hear from women aged between 38 and 50, but that is not a deal breaker. However, I am unlikely to be comfortable forming a relationship with anyone younger than 34. I am also child-free and have a place of my own. Please also be child-free and not be interested in having children (I appreciate that is a big ask but I am not interested in starting a family or competing for your time should you have children already). 

As mutual attraction is important, I think it fair to say at this point, as much as I enjoy all shapes and sizes I am not going to be interested in anyone who has BBW body type. Curves and a womanly figure are sexy AF, though. Obviously, you need to be attracted to a dad-bod. 

About us:

I want a relationship that involves D/s as a primary dynamic. The sexual submission would not only be for the ‘bedroom’ but also for the dynamic to bleed into other areas of the relationship. I wouldn’t expect it to be all-encompassing but you should be comfortable with wanting me to take the lead and provide control within a loving, caring, romantic and nurturing partnership. I like aspects of the free-use, Master/slave, and TPE/1950’s Household dynamic and I would want to discuss and find a suitable balance to our D/s dynamic that would involve us adapting and developing our own version of them. However, it would be indoors and between us only. To friends and family we would appear to have a happy, loving vanilla relationship. 

IMPORTANT: If you do decide to get in touch I will expect there to be a clear and honest discussion regarding our kinks and limits. I want to make it clear that we need to establish some chemistry before we arrange to meet. It is important there is mutual attraction so be prepared to exchange face pictures soon after your initial text. This is a limit. Please don’t waste my time if you want to remain anonymous online.

If all you are after is some JOI and a quick wank then please kindly move on. I am very serious about this search and I will want you to be too. 

With all that said, if this post resonates with you, please do get in touch. I appreciate you reading this far. As a way of knowing if you have read the full post, please start any chat with the identifying word “blue”.