Hello there, my name is Ethan. I've posted before without success, so I'm going to keep trying

My goal for this ad is to accurately reflect the kind of person and the kind of submissive that I am with the intent of finding what I hope will be the greatest purpose in my life: you. I have searched before, and while I have met a few interesting people, compatibility just hasn't been there. I'm hoping to find someone who sees the world but more importantly someone who sees Dominance and submission through a similar lense as I do. I know this is a long post, and I though I know that will turn a lot of people away, the reality is that the kind of person I'm looking for would not be turned off or irritated by reading, so I've decided to put it all down to give you the clearest picture of who I am and what I'm looking for.

Who I am:

Many people struggle for years, even decades to truly discover themselves; to find out who they are. There seems to be an identity crisis among the world. Not for me. I've known my calling from the moment I was born. I call myself a 'natural born' submissive, because I've never wondered about it. It wasnt something I discovered about myself, or something that was developed within me. It's always been there; from my earliest thoughts. As a child not only did I exhibit extremely submissive behavior, but I sought out opportunities to be of service. I didn't really think about it, it's just what I did. It was as natural as breathing. I don't believe in destiny, but I do believe in purpose, and I firmly believe I was born to serve. The desire to be of service has influenced my entire life; from my choice in friends to my choice in career. I chose a career of public service as a wildland firefighter not because it's exciting, and certainly not because of the pay, rather I chose it because putting my life on the line and devoting it to the service of others fulfills me on a personal level. It makes me feel a sense of belonging and value to have a role to fit into that is under the service of someone else; to have my whole life be used for the betterment of someone else is what satisfies and fills my person on an existential level. I have hobbies and interests; things that I do for myself for enjoyment like sailing and backpacking and rock climbing and visiting museums and engaging in the arts, but while those are enjoyable, they don't fulfill me on an existential level. Only service to others does that.

While I am submissive, I am not a pushover or a spineless worm, grovelling at your feet. Worms have no use, and while many submissive men want to be seen as a worm I want to be useful. I strive to be a valuable asset to the people I know. I am a capable professional who works in a position of leadership often so I speak and act in a way that merits that position. Because of this most people confuse me for being an alpha personality. But I am most definitely not. My position in my career does not elevate me above those who I serve, rather it places greater responsibility on me to serve them well.

I have a special interest human nature, and the human spirit. While it feels good, my submission and service to others is not founded or motivated by hedonistic satiation. Being the source of, or contributing to the satisfaction of someone else is the only means by which I can even feel personal pleasure. This is a core principle of myself and it is the foundation of how I see submission. As such it affects what sorts of dynamics am attracted to.

What I'm looking for

As you might have been able to tell, I lean heavily to the slave side of the submissive spectrum. As such, I am attracted to people who lean heavily towards the Master/Owner side of the Dominant spectrum. While I, as a slave find personal fulfillment in being used to better the lives of others, the partner I seek would feel the opposite.

Authenticity of my relationships is the foundation on which they are built. I do not put effort into relationships that are superficial or fake. While this may seem like a universal expectation, I have found that many D/s relationships are largely a facade and are in a way acted out as roles in a play that they participate in recreationally rather than a system of belief that their lifestyle reflects. I seek someone who not only treats me as an inferior, but also believes it. Obedience and submission are not the central part of what makes a slave, they are the manifestations of a belief that the person they serve is higher, better, and by right is entitled to your service to their desires and needs. I seek someone who believes in this; Someone who sees me as I see myself, without guilt or shame.

As I mentioned before, my motivation for service is not driven by hedonistic satiation, meaning my own personal pleasure does not motivate my obedience. Because of this I have no interest in kinks that emphasize my personal pleasure. Things like jerk off instructions and orgasm control. I am not here to serve myself. I'm here to serve you. I'm not saying that I don't feel physical pleasure, what I am saying is that my desire to satisfy my personal pleasure is not the motivation behind my obedience, so dynamics that emphasize it have no ground to stand on with me, so if your kink interests depend heavily on my personal pleasure we will most likely not be compatible.

I am drawn to people who have kinks that are built on the belief Superiority and inferiority, and have a kink pallette where this concept is the central focus. Because of this, I am best suited for more intense dynamics that emphasize the Dominant's qualities, desires, and motivations. I am best utilized by someone who views me through the lens of how I fit into their will.

Limits

Limits are an interesting concept when it comes to the ideal of total submission; the ideal being no limits. But I see slaves and submissives as comparable to possessions and tools with a general purpose to serve, yet like tools have different designed purposes and limitations on what they can do. For myself, my limits of use stretch depending on the position I'm in and the person I serve to best accommodate their desires, however there are a couple boundaries that exceed my use spectrum. These being: Consumption of blood, forced bi, and blatant public sexual acts.

Parameters

Parameters are temporary limits that I have set to protect myself and others during the process of finding a Dominant partner, as well as to ensure the authenticity and integrity of the relationship.

While the Internet is an excellent tool to connect and network with people, it is a dangerous and poor substitute reality as a relationship platform. I recognize the importance of verification and discretion. If you find yourself interested in learning more about me, please PM me and I will send you two photos. One, a SFW body photo, and the other a SFW selfie with a piece of paper that has my username written on it. I will also provide a second verification photo of your choice if you would like.

Online play is a soft limit for me, meaning I will not engage in sexual conduct via the Internet without first building significant trust. However I place high value on the sexual component of Dominance and submission and I understand it's importance, so I am more than willing to communicate with you on your needs and desires and come to an agreement that suits us both.

A long those same lines, I am not looking for an online relationship. I'm looking for something tangible and real, so my intent behind communicating with you will be to eventually meet you for real, in person. Online relationships feel hollow and hold little weight. It's not the dynamic or relationship that I'm looking for. The time it takes to build up enough trust to meet in person will vary depending on how well we connect, but this is the ultimate goal, so if you do not share this goal please consider what you want by reaching out to me. I am more than willing to have friendly discussions that will not lead to relationships, but please let me know that is your intention when you reach out.

Just as a final note: I am looking for a dynamic that is heavily founded in Superiority and inferiority. I am most drawn to people who have are extremely Dominant and are looking for an intense dynamic. Please do not reach out if you are closer to the vanilla side of kink.

If you have read this far, I want to thank you for your time that you spent on me today. I hope it was worth your time and energy, and If you happen to be interested in a possible connection please feel free to reach out. I hope this day finds you well,

Ethan