Hello,
I'm a 29 year male from Ontario Canada and I'm hoping to find the right person to build a meaningful relationship with. I've spent my time reaching out to people on this subreddit but ultimately I've decided to make my own ad and hopefully someone will read it and it'll spark something inside of them to reach out. It truly doesn't matter to me where you're from, so even if you're not in Ontario, or Canada but feel like you'd be a good match for someone like me do not hesitate to start a chat or send a DM.
Who am I?
Vanilla me is employed full time in a job that I genuinely love. Without giving everything away I get to make a positive and long lasting impact in the lives of others and wouldn't trade my job for anything else. I also have a side job that I work which is in higher education which I am also quite passionate about. Between my two jobs I *can* be busy, but always make time for people I care about (friends, family, romantic partners) and can guarantee you without a doubt that you will never feel neglected or like a second priority.
A brief physical description is that I am South Asian (although I've been called racially ambiguous before and mistaken for a plethora of ethnicities), 5'8, 180lbs and in shape. I visit the gym 6 days a week, go swimming once to twice a week and overall make health and fitness a priority in my life. I'm not shredded ( but do come with big biceps), I don't count calories or macros but I do make a conscious effort to eat healthy, and stay healthy.
Some of passions are but not limited to.....travel, food, games and anime. I'm genuinely a big travel junkie and make it a goal to visit a country or two every year. Experiencing different cultures has widened my view on the world and something I cherish. I also *love* to eat, and try new cuisine. As long as it's edible and doesn't look like it'll kill me if I eat it I'll most likely give it a chance. When it comes to gaming and anime, I used to very into them growing up but as I've gotten older they aren't as big of a part of my life. I just don't have as much free time as I used to but I still make it a goal to spend at least 30 minutes to an hour with my friends playing some games online and/or watching an anime or two (Inuyasha? If you like Inuyasha we might just have to skip getting to know each other and go straight to dating).
Kinkwise I'm into many things and won't list them in great detail here. I'll briefly mention some of the top items I'm into and we can discuss further in private. I'm very into humiliation & degradation, they are hands down my top two kinks. I also enjoy impact play, TPE to a certain extent, Free Use, and DDLG without any age play/age regression. I'm a mix of being very loving and affectionate and also very strict and sadistic and do best with women who like a healthy balance of both.
Who are you?
As a Dom what I enjoy the most is providing love, care, guidance and support for my subs. The women I am most attracted to are those that are independent, strong and wouldn't be the person you'd think of when someone would say "she's submissive". Are you the type of girl that is a boss at work? Are you capable and independent, no one assumes you'd ever defer to a man to make decisions for you, or tell you what to do? But...at the end of the day do you want to come home and "turn off" your brain, would you prefer to have a man you can trust, be yourself with and know with every part of your heart and mind that they will take care of you, your wants and needs? The way I like to Dom my partners is by learning about them, understanding them, figuring out their likes and dislikes and eventually knowing them better than they know themselves. I want to not only be your Dom, but eventually be your everything. My passion is one that aims to consume and devour my partner, I want all of you and won't stop until I get it.
I'm attracted to women of all ages so please don't be scared if you're younger and don't have much experience ( I love to teach!) or if you're older and have experience. At a minimum just be 18 and at a maximum mid to late 30's but I am flexible on the upper age range for the right woman. I'm very open to subs that are experienced and or inexperienced because truly what matters the most if you ask me is the person, and everything else can be figured out afterwards :)
Physically I'm attracted to all kinds of women, and as long as you are height weight proportional I have no concerns when it comes to physical attraction. I'm attracted to girls that are chubby/curvy and girls that are fit and in shape. Physical attraction is important but chemistry, having a spark and that attraction beyond the looks is equally as important to me!
Who shouldn't you be!
Now that you know what I am looking for, it's only fair I also describe the person or rather, the type of person I am not attracted to.
If you are bratty by nature it won't work out between us. It's not that I can't be a brat tamer but rather I lose interest quickly in girls who are bratty for the sake of being bratty.
If you have no intention of having kids or wanting children in the future. Some day down the road I'd like to start a family and I mean if we can't have kids for biological reasons that's one thing but if you as a person are childfree then it most definitely will not work out.
If you are heavily intro drinking and drug use. I myself do not partake in any vices and would prefer a partner that doesn't either. If you drink socially it could still work, but any casual drug use or heavy drinking is not something I'm looking for in a partner.
If you have no career/education it likely won't workout. If you're younger (18 though) I may be more flexible but to me a partner with ambition and drive that matches my own is really important to me since I plan on having a very successful life and it's a lot less work when two people can contribute to the pot.
If you're a strict atheist it likely will not work out either. I'm a very spiritual person and have a deep appreciation for a higher power. If you're someone who doesn't have any faith or is staunchly against religion of any kind than we likely will have ideological differences and it won't work out.
If you've read this far I would like to sincerely thank you! I look forward to hearing from anyone that wasn't scared away from my long post lol!!!
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