I felt like maybe I should throw my hat into the ring and see if anyone here is looking for something similar. I’ll cut to the chase - I’m looking for a really strong emotional connection within a D/s context. I want a (healthy and balanced!) power exchange relationship so my ideal dynamic exists outside of the bedroom as well. While I do feel like I thrive in the leadership role, I don’t ever want my partner to feel disrespected or mistreated. A great kinky relationship should involve just as much mutual respect and emotional intimacy as a vanilla relationship, maybe more. I really believe in teamwork and that both people build the relationship together, admittedly in different ways. I like the power and control that comes from a power exchange dynamic and I absolutely do not get those feelings in vanilla dating, but that doesn’t mean that I want to bully my partner. I appreciate a partner who is playful and who has a sense of humor and I recognize that many of the best subs are really independent. I value my partner’s feelings and input and I really am open to feedback. (I think I’m probably more open than a lot of other people who engage in this sort of thing.) We both support each other because we both have different needs - it should never feel one sided. I also want to be able to engage in the all of the normal, fun, vanilla dating activities. If we’re going out to dinner or drinking at a bar, or just taking a walk around the city, I think we should be able to do that in our roles without having anyone else know. It can be our little secret. While I do believe that any relationship takes work and investment, I think that, for the type of people to whom this style of relationship appeals, it’s often ultimately more natural. It’s how we want to live. Okay - I think that’s about it. If you read this and feel like we might be compatible, please don’t hesitate to reach out! I’m open to people who are shy, lacking in experience, not 100% comfortable communicating, new to kink, of varying ages (22 ) etc. If you feel like this is mostly up your alley but there are a few things you don’t like, I’m happy to discuss and I’m open to compromise. I intentionally didn’t create a laundry list of what I want in a partner because I don’t believe in reducing anyone to a list. Every person and relationship is different and I can’t wait to meet you!