Hey BDSMpersonal People!

This is my second try of a similar post here at this subreddit. Added a little [UPDATE] at the end, if you read my post from a week ago you can jump to the update at the end.

About me

I am Mike, 48 years old and come from Germany. Speak pretty good English, so those are the two languages that work for me. Even in my earliest memories I was always dominant, I could only really name myself when I was about 21. Since then I've had a few relationships that have shaped me and my preferences.

What am I looking for?

I am looking for a submissive woman who would like to serve, whose fulfillment is not only to be submissive but whose goal is to give up control in many areas. Who longs to be the perfect partner to a very dominant man. Who draws her pleasure from giving me some.

What I am not looking for?

Working against each other, violence or persuasion, discussions or arguments, threats of punishment and other nonsense. I avoid people who think they are submissive by doing tasks badly because they like the punishments that follow. I don't want to change the picture of yourself to the outer world. I am not interested in "outing" you as a sub to others. I am not interested to slut up your life to others during your clothes or some tasks that are risky and get you caught in public. Your work or family should not notice it. I like the secret that belongs to both of us and no one else should ever know what kind of relationship we have.

My world

You may be asking yourself, what is it that I offer you? Basically, it's a world of rules, rituals, roles you take on and tasks. I give you a tight construct that you can imagine as a corset, one that gives you stability and comfort, but never crushes you or takes your breath.

A well thought-out system of rules, rituals, punishments and tasks. Many hundreds have come together in the meantime and we can add those to our world that we both want to use to make you my perfect sub. You should like the fact that I control and determine your life. In many areas, but we'll leave out areas you don't like. But I'm also okay with you saying you don't want limits. That can and generally should go a long way. We will make the most of what is possible online. And who knows, maybe the whole thing is just preparation for a real meeting or even a real relationship in the distant future. I don't want to rule that out. A few examples of what I would like to do: I'd like to decide what you do in your free time, what clothes you wear, and also give you little secret tasks in your everyday life that you'll only do for me. I would like to give you the feeling that I am in control of you.

The Dealbreaker?!

Great, if you've read this far, let's move on to something essential. Since we probably won't be living next door to each other, we are limited to an online relationship.

Therefore it is of course an advantage if you accept to send pictures/videos at some point. To protect you it should be anonymous pictures without recognizable details. Since I don't know your address or your full name, this should give you the necessary security at the beginning and make pictures possible. I think it is very important to see you and to give you the feeling of being seen. Especially to be used by me. This is often a deal-breaker that I can't understand. Of course, you have to build up a certain level of trust. I don't expect it from the start. But at a certain point it is necessary. And at some point I will want to see your face. If we decide it together. I never force things like that. But if we grow closer together, it will come naturally. Giving up anonymity.

I don't think what I've said so far is enough for you to decide whether you want to try it. But if at this point you think it's worth a try, then reach out for me. And we should then find out in many conversations whether we want to try it together.

Thanks for reading.

Mike

[UPDATE]
I wand to specify that It's often a problem for women to even think about sending pictures. I want to make that clear again, that you should not only should be "okayish" with sending pic somewhere later, you should instead like to show yourself to arouse your dom. And you should not see me as some person that is just searching for nudes. I don't.