I am not fond of labels and categories within BDSM - when I was younger/new to the community I found that labels were a source of identity and pride for me. In my late teens and early 20s I identified as a slave (24/7 TPE dynamic) and later as a brat (was not living a monogamous lifestyle at the time).

I am seeking a connection. Something that grows gently and in time, leaving us both space to grow individually and tend to our passions outside of kink. I am open minded. My preferences are not fixed.

I value ecology; I am passionate about conservation. I have a garden and I love to cook and bake. That’s about the extent of my domestic side, though I do stay organized and err more on the side of minimalism at home.

I am drawn to people who are philosophical. I love when my partner becomes like a guru to me (though that takes time and trust and I find that the ones most eager to sign up for that are not necessarily the most discerning).

It also excites me when someone is able to do hands on projects like gardening and landscaping. It’s wonderful to have a partner who is handy around the home and who can step in and act quickly in an emergency. Maybe this translates to the bedroom as I am not one to ignore safety precautions (whether that be with contraception, bondage or choking) and I admire those who do their research and preparation. It makes me feel secure when my partner is discerning.

Thank you for reading my ad. I have limited availability to check messages this weekend, but I will check messages each morning and evening. Unfortunately I may not be able to respond to all messages, especially if I find that it’s evident that we are not a good match.

I appreciate all of you, let’s continue contributing to the BDSM community as we honor consent and elevate the pursuit of kinky pleasure!