Hi there! I'm a 30 year-old Asian professional in the Dallas area and have been in kink for nearly a decade now. I've had subs with a variety of kinks, and having indulged many of them, am incredibly open minded about anything you might be into. It's been a while since I've had a sub locally and figured I'd start here because I've had incredible luck with reddit in the past.

Outside of work and sex, I'm a fairly nerdy guy and enjoy playing games of any kind. I love history and traveling and could talk about those topics for hours. Lately I've been trying to focus on getting more active to try and pull myself back from the dad bod.

So on to some ideas of what I'm looking for:

I've never really wanted a 24/7 dynamic, at least long term. I think it might be fun to have a designated weekend of 24/7 but I do genuinely prefer to treat people as equals and with respect (very controversial and shocking, I know). And along that line, I don't think I'd ever require a sub to live with me or anything like that (again live in slave is a great fantasy to play for like a weekend or something max).

I also can't wrap my head around D/s dynamics that are aromantic? I know it happens and it works for some people but I'm not wired that way. So my expectation is that my sub would make me one of their priorities in their schedule and we'd schedule around dates and events and such. I want to put time and affection and effort in and I'd want a reflection of that back where I'm sexually and emotionally fulfilled by the relationship and so are they. But all of that is just general relationship expectations.

In terms of D/s specifically, I think currently I'd want my sub to be "mine" or "owned" by me in that they don't have other D/s dynamics going on - obviously just having a partner dominant in bed in other relationships is fine - but more that I'd want to be the only daddy or master. Collaring would be an eventuality even though it isn't as significant as more traditional D/s people out there to me. I definitely would not want or be comfortable with my D/s dynamic/relationship with someone to take priority, precedence, or disrespect any other relationships or partners my sub would have. Maybe the only caveat is wearing some sort of token that isn't a collar when we're not actively spending time together, but I really think that's more of a specific negotiation.

Finally, I've never been really into protocol? My enjoyment of protocol comes from seeing how much my sub is enjoying being in "behavioral bondage". If the rule "you must be on your knees when you greet me" doesn't give you any sexual gratification, it doesn't for me either. I think as the dynamic develops, there would be a negotiation where if I word a command a certain way, its me giving a command as a dom, but that's about the extent of protocol I'm naturally comfortable with. I also feel similar about specific positions or poses as I do about protocol - if my sub isn't getting wet to being told to wait in humble until I'm ready then I can take it or leave it.

To summarize I'm looking for someone interested in both a relationship and a D/s dynamic. Someone who can be a partner and companion to care for emotionally and sexually. If you're interested, send me a chat and we can see if there's any chemistry to develop further.