Hello!

I'm looking for a confident woman in control of her life (or on the road to doing so) who is interested in giving up that control while in the bedroom. If that sounds like you, then keep reading!

About me: 43-year-old, 5’7”, long haired Vietnamese-American software developer who is eager to talk about something besides software development. I'm single, never been married and have no kids. I enjoy reading, practicing guitar, photography, video games, walking, and yoga. In the bedroom I enjoy being dominant once I'm comfortable; I think D/s requires chemistry and trust to be established with a partner rather than something to be jumped into immediately.

I'd describe myself as an "affectionate sadist" - I want to do stuff like hold hands and have dumb inside jokes but in the bedroom I want to slap you around and call you degrading things. And yes, there will absolutely be cuddles afterwards.

What I'm Looking For: In a recent post here, the writer stated "I don't want to be a slut. I want to be your slut." That's exactly the kind of woman I'm looking for.

Looking for someone local to California at the very least, but open to chat with someone online with the possibility of meeting up in person at some point. Also would like to exchange unfiltered, SFW pics early on if we hit it off because A: physical attraction is important and B: getting catfished suuuuuuuuuuuuucks.

As you may have guessed, I'm most compatible sexually with women who are submissive in the bedroom and

• enjoy being treated roughly

• enjoy being degraded verbally

• are eager to please

but this list is not exhaustive and I'll be more than happy to discuss others as well as get into the specifics of what I've mentioned above. Also would love to find a partner who is up to trying out role-playing and/or bimbofication.

Random SFW Facts

• My best karaoke song: Careless Whisper by George Michael. Good Old Fashioned Lover Boy by Queen is a close second.

• Last book read: I'm currently in the middle of The Artist's Way. Also, before I let my Kindle Unlimted subscription lapse I probably read way too much trashy erotica.

• Last show watched: The Mandalorian. I like the show but I really wish they could figure out a way to bring Werner Herzog back into it :-)

• Last movie watched: Shutter Island. Saw it years ago but recently discovered it was on Netflix and enjoyed it even more this second time around.

• Favorite beverage: Mandarin orange herbal tea

If you're interested, let me know a little bit about yourself. Reddit chat doesn't work consistently for me so please send a Reddit message instead if you'd like a response. Looking forward to hearing from you!