Before you dive into the nitty gritty of what I'm looking for, a bit about me:

I'm mid-30s, white, ginger, average height, average weight, above average length. I've been told I'm cute often enough and definitely not conventionally attractive. I'm in the time zone of CST/CDT/GMT -6 and am usually available during the typical work day, some late nights, and here and there during the weekends.

I am in a relationship and am not getting what I need in it with regards to a Dom/sub dynamic. She has no real interest in it and will not be involved in, or aware of, our dynamic. If this bothers you, then I wish you luck in your continued search. If you are OK with this, then please read on.

Outside of Kink: I'm a nerd that loves to laugh and try to inject humor into most any situation from quips, to puns, to play-on-words, to teasing. I spend most of my free time not tending to my responsibilities with playing games or watching shows. I enjoy being outdoors, specifically in the woods or in a boat on a lake.

I’m neurodivergant and only got my diagnosis as an adult: AuDHD. It can make for times of lots of contact and others of withdrawal, depending on how life is fairing or my fixation status. Perversion is a regular and huge fixation of mine.

The Kinky Me: I consider myself to be somewhat of a Daddy or soft Dom. Or even a "bratty Dom" in the sense that I like to tease and joke while in control. I can switch from playful to stern and back quickly. I definitely get arousal from being in control, and will want to include regular sexual activities as part of my control.

I love the juxtaposition of pleasure and discomfort, or even pain. I have a sadistic side that tends to be mild to moderate with a focus more on pinching/clamps, impact play, and breath play, but can get harder with the right partner or if the mood strikes (Pun intended). I love it when my partner cums for me, especially after edging, painful play, or in a continuous string of orgasms. I have a fascination with sexual messes on my submissive in the form of her own juices or spit/saliva/drool.

I enjoy the idea of public naughtiness. Whether that's just outside of your bedroom in the rest of your home, out in nature, or hidden in a public place. I do not like the idea of getting my submissive in trouble and am cautious with such activities.

I enjoy having controls that are not sexual in nature, too. Especially if it's a control in dedication to the dynamic or to help my submissive improve herself in some way or reach a goal.

I understand aftercare is difficult in an online relationship. It will mostly consist of communicating afterwards, making sure you drink water, perhaps have a special snack, and praise for your obedience. It can be tweaked to fit what you need or our dynamic allows.

My major limits are:

• Harm (Causing injury that requires medical attention beyond immediate first aid and aftercare)
• Filth (Scat play, toilet play, soiling, wetting, vomiting, purposeful blood, etc)
• Legal trouble (Getting in trouble where the law becomes involved)

What About You? You should consider yourself as a general submissive, a pet, a little, or a Mommy sub. You should want to submit, please your Dom, and be happy to do so. While I do not like the brat attitude of "Make me", I enjoy some bratty behavior from my submissive in the sense of her own teasing and jokes, but she should understand when it's time to submit. Some level of masochistic desires are required.

Your attitude towards submission will matter more to me than your physical appearance; an eagerness and willingness to please means a lot. Age, race/ethnicity, relationship status, and such things will not matter much. Physical limitations can be worked with and around as needed.

You should be willing to share pictures with me regularly (And will receive my own) as I like to see what I own and control, proof of task progression/completion, and as a show of obedience. I know there are a lot of hang-ups when it comes to sharing images, and rightfully so, so I hope to be able to earn the trust to have them shared.

Why I find my submissive sharing pictures with me important.

You should be able to be available during my regular times of availability. Whether you're in the same or similar time zone, or across the world, doesn't matter as long as you're on when I am on a regular basis. You should also be understanding, as I am, about how life doesn’t always cooperate with fun, and that some days will be more active than others.

I want you to feel free to express yourself openly with me in all things. Especially in regards to our dynamic, but in anything you feel comfortable sharing as well. I welcome an inquisitive submissive that wants to ask questions and learn about things and discuss the "why" and the "how" as well as the "what".

What About A Couple? I will accept couples made of either FM, FF, or FT. I expect very similar things as I would an individual with a few exceptions.

The first being that either you are both submissive, or that the non-submissive partner will not interfere with their partner's submission. If one partner is non-submissive, but wishes to help, that would be appreciated but not expected. I will only accept a couple with one partner being submissive if it is the woman.

The second being that with communication (See below), there will be a way to communicate with both partners individually. This is so either feels safe admitting anything they may not be fully comfortable expressing to/in front of their partner (I know, it happens), or that I may organize a surprise for the other. There would also be a chat with all of us for regular discussions and play time.

What About Us? Our dynamic will be my primary focus, but that does not mean I won't welcome a friendship. I want this dynamic to last as long as possible, as long as our respective life situations allow it to.

Our dynamic can be as casual or involved as we can agree and handle. It can range from:

• Adhoc/free use play/irregular play times
• Tasking play
• Structure added to your life with rules for your private time in addition to play time
• Control within aspects of your life outside of private time, kink, and play time, that will not disrupt your life in an undesired way

Play time and tasks will require you to communicate clearly to what you are doing, or have done, in order to complete my orders. This is especially important for tasks. This will allow me to better direct play time and help tailor it to our fun.

How Will We Communicate? We will have a getting to know each other period until we are both comfortable with continuing a relationship. I am eager to get started, but I do not want to rush things into something neither of us are happy with. During that time we will discuss our expectations for the dynamic, particular desires, potential outcomes, and limits.

Once we feel comfortable with each other here on Reddit, we will take our relationship off of this platform to either Discord (Preferred) or Skype where we will be able to text, share links and images, and have the rare voice and video chat.

I look forward to hearing from you!