My husband and I have a fantastic sex life most of the time. Both of us play the role of a switch and more often than not have mind blowing sex. The problem that I keep running into is there are times where I want him to be more dominant and I know he knows exactly what I want because he’s done it before But after I mention, I want him to take control, lose a little bit of the appeal because it still feels like I’m telling him what to do versus him voluntarily, taking that more dominant role, which happens much less frequently, then switch sex. I’m looking for any advice that you guys might have to allow me to ask him to be that dominant role that I know he can do but without me asking him out rightly to do it. I don’t know if that means that we need a code word or if I need to work on Not feeling turned off by asking him to take control. sometimes I think life would be easier if we were simply a dumb sub relationship, but I don’t think he has the capacity to do that all of the time and I don’t mind taking control of some of the times. It’s actually fun for me so I do think I fit more into the switch roll. But I definitely crave more of the foreplay that I’ve gotten from him while we’re in more of that dominant and submissive role.