Hi everyone,

I’m reaching out for a bit of guidance and perhaps some shared experiences that might help me navigate a tricky situation. My Boyfriend (m27) and I (m25) have been together for nearly a year.

We met in a BDSM context and initially had a master-slave dynamic with me as the submissive. However, our relationship evolved and the sexual aspect has dwindled, particularly the BDSM elements, which we haven't practiced in months.

Recently, we‘ve been consciously exploring our sexual sides again and, partially thanks to therapy and reddits advice, this has been going good.

This weekend, my partner is working at a BDSM event for a youth association. Afterwards we may be doing some play there, which is cool! While the event and location seem cool, I’m feeling quite anxious about attending. I haven't been kinky for a while and I'm concerned about not being in the right mindset, especially since when I'm anxious, I tend to get a bit agitated and pissy towards my bf.

I‘m a firm believer of starting and restarting things slowly in bdsm, and well this is the opposite. But its such a good opportunity I think?

I’d love some advice on how to manage these feelings or any similar experiences you might have had. How do you handle attending BDSM events after a break? Any tips for reconnecting with the kink side of your relationship under these circumstances?

Thanks for reading and for any insights you can offer!

TL;DR: Going to a kinky event after a long break, anxious if I‘ll get in the mood and mindset