Both here on reddit, and on Fetlife (which is worse imo). The kind of person that's into kink and open enough to post an ad tends to be kinda creepy. Scrolling thru fetlife and some of the subreddits for meeting people, you'll get some dude that's 100% airing out his sexual fantasy that at best has 1 other person on this earth that would be into.

"your partner is also a human being, not a fleshlight with a pulse" doesn't seem to be a rule on most of these places so you'll see shit like:

"57m seeking 18yo girl to be tied to a railroad track and finger blasted while my dog watches"

"24m haha jk, unless 😏😏"

"35m I want a cheating housewife to be the Unicorn in my loveless marrige"

"27m let me suck your toes"

"98m need a lesbian so I can convert her back into being straight"

"36m me and my huge cock need a wet summer home"

And I'm only barely exaggerating, one scroll thru the more local pages of any fetlife classifieds and you'll see at least 1 of these. Mostly with very low effort on the body of the post.

It's no fuckin wonder people aren't getting responded to. Even for the people trying to treat their potential partner as a human being, women are on a hair trigger to just ignore or ghost somebody bc they're surrounded by so many red flags the room is starting to gloI? God forbid go look at the comments under any personals sub that isn't locked.

Not that I don't have problems, but this shit is def ruining it for the rest of the guys floating around these places. I'm not insane for seeing this am i?

Tl:Dr other people (especially women) are also in the middle of the human experience and not just convenient fetish depositorys.