More specific location: I’m practically a troll that lives under the Severn Bridge between England and South Wales but I put UK as I can and do travel a lot and I'm sufficiently mobile (with flexible work hours) that if I found ‘the one’ I could some months later easily move without ruining my career of randomly scaring people crossing the bridge.  (I should probably clarify I don’t actually live under a bridge.)

Intro

So out of all my many different quirks and kinks my occasional gender bending appears to be the most “Marmite” part of me (though I don’t know why after all aren’t most women seeking a man taller than them in heels – and I’m taller than 99% of women when I’m in heels) so I’m leading with my femme side here.  If you like what you read here then I can point you towards my male reddit account and its most recent personal to find out about who I am most of the time.  

Think of it like meeting Clark Kent – if you’re not interested in him then you don’t need to know he’s also Superman.  (Side note: does comparing oneself to Superman come across narcissistic? I’d have thought going with Batman was more of a red flag even if he’s a billionaire bad boy and the only Spiderman women want is a man to get rid of the spiders, not give them children that are one quarter spider – though in fairness one quarter spider would still give ensure such hypothetical kids would have the correct 2 eyes and 2 legs).

If by this point you already think this personal advert is already a complete car crash I suggest you either save yourself the time of reading further… Or pause here to go make popcorn.  I love making women roll their eyes – whether out of orgasmic pleasure or from dumb jokes that leave them embarrassed to know me I’m not fussed.

But yeah I don’t have a split personality – or at least that’s not what I tell myself 😉 – my femme side just did a little fetish modelling years back and keeping some parts of your life separate is not unusual for those who’ve done such work.  Best you know about that now, I’m not ashamed of having done SW and honestly some of the coolest people I’ve had the pleasure to make friends with (no I’ve never been a client, I don’t even have an OF account so don’t ask me to follow) have done it such that if that part of me is an issue we may not get along.

Anyway despite my leading with my femme side I spend 95% of my time as male, presenting as male.  I have no desire to transition.  I have been attached to my willy from birth so much so I follow it around wherever it goes...  

I come with most of the perks of a typical boyfriend* but with the additional benefits that I’ll willingly go shopping with you, have a night in doing your nails or something with a part-time ‘girlfriend’ that you don’t have to worry would steal your boyfriend or if you trust your friends completely and don’t mind them knowing my femme side then on a girls’ night out I can be an undercover chaperone able to ward off any unwelcome trouble or be the designated driver that ensures everyone gets home safely (I don’t drink alcohol or do drugs or smoke).

* Besides the bedroom benefits other boyfriend perks/skills include: some tech skills (especially web design), a little metal/wood working, videography skills and I occasionally bake.

What am I looking for?

1.       Someone I can share a laugh with.  If I like you I will playfully tease you and I hope you will respond in kind.  I do not take myself too seriously and not afraid to joke at my own expense (I’m not a fan of people that can only joke/laugh at other people’s expense, it comes across as a bully putting people down under the guise of humour).

2.       Someone who is open to a long term relationship.  I don’t do one night stands.  I am very psychological when it comes to kink and like to explore all facets of a partner’s kinky mind – simply pumping a dumping doesn’t engage my mind sufficiently.  I am open to typical monogamous relationships, play-partner only relationships and some forms of ethical monogamy (I’m more than happy for a partner to seek something I can’t provide with others, I’ll even happily organise a gang bang.  My reservations are: many people half ass their relationships anyway finding the time to juggle multiple people doesn’t help this tendency; ensuring safe sex; and ensuring all involved are being treated fairly – forget unicorn hunting).

3.       I would imagine if you’re considering a gender bending partner you’re already sexually adventurous/curious (or have bisexual leanings) such that you’re already probably as much as an experimentalist as me – if you’re .  Whilst I don’t need a complete match to my kinks (brief summary below) if you seek a monogamous relationship I would be looking for a switch as I would get bored after a while on one side of the slash and I do like the occasional role play including power reversal whether that be a primal struggle for dominance or a roleplay as your chauvinistic male boss that you blackmail to work as your sissy whore until I’ve earned enough for you to get those shoes you want. Etc.  You do not need to worry if you have little experience but are curious – I can either lead you as a Dom to explore your fantasies or encourage you with empathy by dressing up and doing it with you (you don’t need to worry about a partner being judgy of you if they’re being as slutty as you are).

Whilst I have not put any age preferences (I wouldn’t want to put off a possible perfect partner that just happened to be slightly older or younger than such range) though the smaller the age difference the easier conversations are. I would also say if you are hoping to find a partner to potentially have children with I don’t envision having them for at least 5 years – I would like to do some more traveling with a partner before kids make it a PITA to do so.

Misc.

Kinky summary – I am on different occasions: a Switch; Bratty Dom; Soft Pleasure Dom; Degrader; Primal Hunter, Rigger; Femdom (when dressed up); Exhibitionist; Splosher; Submissive (serving however you wish); Degradee and/or Sissy.

If you read all the way through the advert (congrats on making the summit) and want to demonstrate it including the answer to the following question along with introducing yourself: If I told you I’ve organised a mystery night out, it could be romantic and adventurous or it could be kinky and slutty BUT you are only allowed to bring 5 items with you in your handbag – what 5 items do you choose to bring and why?

Thanks for reading, I hope either to hear from you or if not that you have the best of luck finding what you are looking for.

PS. I went with Clark Kent/Superman in my example as he’s an example of how submissiveness does not mean weakness – he is the “man of steel” but yet serves “truth, justice and the American way” as well as most of Lois’s whims.  Sure Wonder Woman’s BDSM origins as the powerful woman that chooses to submit when in love is probably a better example BUT as I’m a man explaining that straight up to an audience likely to know that wouldn't be particularly endearing.