As an American living in a smaller city in SE Asia, it's actually kind of difficult finding a matching partner for my Dom/sub needs. Add in that I'm in a long-term non-monogamous relationship and the difficulty skyrockets. That's why I'm usually on here trying to find connections on reddit. I've had satisfying connections in the past on here, but since the pandemic "ended" I feel like this sub has hit the toilet. Everyone who seems to reach out fails to know how time zones work (I'm UTC 8, 12 hours ahead of EST) or is just after some quick play in the first few hours of chatting. If you message me, don't be like that.

I'm looking for a doll. Someone I can control to an extent in a TPE arrangement. Someone who appreciates affection but isn't necessarily looking for their one-and-only-happily-ever-after. Remember, I'm non-monogamous and while I have a vanilla platonic partner I'm committed to, I'm looking to also commit to a sexual/BDSM partner. This isn't group or harem shit, just a 1-on-1 Dom/sub dynamic. You get to be freed from some of your choice and decision making. You get the opportunities to serve and please. You get to be attended to emotionally and mentally.

You've probably noticed I sound pretty dry. That's just how I am when speaking to an empty void. Once the chatting takes off I'm definitely more of a real person. I can even laugh!

Things I hunger for: Control (wardrobe orgasms speech), obedience, mental & emotional exploration, verbal degradation, pet play, bimbo play, toy usage, light bondage, light impact play. The ones in bold are my main cravings, everything else would be a lovely bonus but unnecessary.

Another dismal aspect of this subreddit is that so many posts I read by submissives are described as "I want, I want, I want." I get it, we're all looking for something we want but not many seem to consider describing what they can give. So here's my version of that:

• I'm quite detail oriented. This is most enjoyable when it comes to controlling your play or describing things to you over voice, but it's also super useful when it comes to things like priorities, scheduling, and communication. I value clarity incredibly and being as detailed as I am leads to fewer miscommunications or misunderstandings.

• I have a ton of patience. This means if you're new or confused by some things, I'm able to take my time to make sure things happen at a reasonable pace.

• I'm a feminist. That means I understand and empathize with the world women live in and some/many of the ways it's different from the world men live in. Your safety is important and so while pictures is always a big deal in these things, your face and any identifying info will never be required. Nudity is even negotiable. Some pics will be necessary though. For example, it's difficult for me to control your wardrobe if I don't know what any of it looks like. The best way to resolve that? Pics of clothes/outfits.

• I'm a great conversationalist. It's my job and I've gotten really good at it. This is a double-edged sword though because while I', good at it, I am still a natural introvert and some days I need more mental recharging than others. Still, I maintain daily communication with my subs, I just may not have the energy to deep dive philosophically every day.

To me I think those are my greatest strengths. I'm looking for a long-term connection. As long as you're okay with my situation and time-zone, reach out. If there's anything you're curious about or think I failed to mention, reach out. I'm waiting to hear from you.

And thanks if you actually read the whole thing.