I've been a submissive pretty much as long as I can remember. Recently, I started dating a woman who, well, besides being an amazing person, is a sub as well. She has scenarios she's described to me that she likes, or wants to try. And she really likes being called names, btch, slt, wh*re etc. However, I can't bring myself to even do that much. Here's the other side of the coin, we've known each other for years, have always liked each other, but we're both married, and both recently divorced. I can picture myself doing these things, but when I look at her, I can't imagine even raising my voice to her. I want to give her what she wants, and see her get the pleasure she deserves. What can I do to get into the mindset? What can I do to train myself to at least be more assertive?