I'm kinda new to all of this. I'm not naturally that dominant and I'm talking to someone online who is wanting a soft-dom/Daddy kind of dynamic. We're still at the early stages of things and I need to find a way to show a bit more dominance without pushing too far.

There are a lot of flirty comments exchanged and because we're still getting to know each other I'm unsure if I should be pushing here. I'm also unsure how to exert a little more dominance. Obviously I don't want to push too hard.

We haven't done anything sexual at this stage so rather than me just responding with an instruction, is it still soft-dom to check with her first? For example she says something flirty, even sexually suggestive, I would say "That sounds very sexy, would it be ok if I told you what I'd like you to do?", or "I'd like to tell you what to do with X, is that ok?".

Does this sound reasonable, or too soft? I don't want to knock down what we're building but I also don't want to fail to show the dominance that she has indicated she desires. As you can probably tell I'm a pile of nerves about going too far in either direction. Any advice appreciated.