I’ve just recently started going to a local club that hosts a BDSM night where guests are allowed to use a restricted area for rigging and impact play. For safety they have the play space roped off, giving players ample room to not interfere with others at play. But this also creates a dynamic where others are welcome to be voyeurs of this exhibition and watch scenes between a Dom and a sub.

Two weeks ago I witnessed a scene of a sub being spanked by a Dom. The sub was wearing a pair of the most perfect patent leather stiletto boots. I noticed these as she was bent over a sawhorse and wincing in aroused ecstasy with every strike.

I’d like to approach this woman the next time I go to the club. She’s a regular and has been there each time I’ve gone. I’d like to introduce myself with the intension of playing with her and building connection that could possibly lead to a relationship.

Knowing this, is it distasteful to open the conversation with a compliment of her boots or how I found her to be beautiful and erotically attractive during her prior scene? How to do this and not give off stalker vibes?